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The Growth Note | Personality Always Wins

Read it. Feel it. Do something with it.

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Hey you,

This past weekend my family and my buddy Seth went on a Royal Caribbean Cruise. One afternoon out at sea, we were on the pool deck when the crew announced the infamous “World’s Sexiest Man” competition. , you're going to love this!

With hundreds of people watching, I convinced my brother and Seth to enter. And of course, I joined too.

The rounds were simple: push-ups, poses, flexes. Most guys followed the directions exactly. They did the push-ups, they posed, and they waited for applause.

I decided to do something different. I added personality into every round, from dancing to backflips. I played with the crowd. I made it fun.

And here’s the crazy part: I ended up winning. Not because I was the best looking. Not because I had the biggest muscles. But because personality always wins.

The same is true in communication and leadership. People don’t remember the person who just “does the steps.” They remember the one who shows up with energy, presence, and personality.

3 Ways Personality Creates Influence

1. The Charisma Principle

People rarely remember the best facts—they remember the best energy. Great communicators don’t just transmit information, they change the atmosphere in the room.

2. The Law of Differentiation

When everyone else is blending in, personality is what makes you stand out. Leaders who infuse humor, stories, and authenticity are the ones people follow.

3. The Relatability Effect

Personality makes you approachable. It lowers resistance and creates buy-in. When people feel like you’re talking withthem instead of at them, they root for you.

2 Quotes to Reflect On

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou

“Charisma is not about being the loudest in the room, it’s about making others feel like they are the only one in it.” – Olivia Fox Cabane

1 Stretch for the Week

This week, in one meeting or conversation, deliberately inject more personality than the script requires.

Tell a quick story. Use humor. Let your enthusiasm show.

Then notice how people lean in when you stop following the rules and start showing up as you.

If this Growth Note gave you something to think about, forward it to someone who needs the reminder that personality—not perfection—is what wins.

More soon — until then, speak boldly.

—Kamryn

Beyond the Note

I work with founders, professionals, and teams who want to speak with confidence, lead with clarity, and grow through intentional communication.

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