Hello ,

I bring with me a special surprise... Let's celebrate, come on, let's celebrate!

Today is a remarkable day for both of us . It's special for me because I have the opportunity to share one of my closely guarded secrets, and it's special for you because you get to witness the unveiling of this secret.

Before we continue, I want to take a moment to share a bit about my past. I have experienced emotional abuse, felt weak, and struggled with personal boundaries. I couldn't say no and always compared myself to others, which made me feel sad and lonely.

I am the second child, the first girl. I don't know if you can relate, but being in that birth position puts us in a certain psychological disadvantage. There's even an acronym for it - EDS, which stands for eldest daughter syndrome. While it's not an official psychiatric diagnosis, it's a role that many young girls inherit as the oldest girl. It often involves taking on more domestic responsibilities, emotional caretaking, and facing higher expectations compared to younger siblings.

Here are some signs of eldest daughter syndrome:

- Having a strong sense of responsibility.

- Feeling a need for control.

- Carrying the weight of parents' expectations.

- Struggling with perfectionism.

- Finding it challenging to form relationships with peers.

- Feeling resentment towards family members.

- Always prioritizing others over oneself.

, this can make us feel like we're carrying a heavy burden. And when you add abuse to the mix, it's no wonder I was miserable; constantly thinking about how to meet others' expectations and pleasing them.

But one day, I woke up and made a decision. I couldn't bear another day with the weight of the world on my shoulders. On that beautiful, glorious day, I chose to let go of my inner hatred and resentments. Now, every morning I wake up feeling liberated. I make decisions based on deep self-knowledge and prioritize what brings me joy.

This simple shift has allowed me to continue serving my family, but now it's because I want to, not because I have to. It means I am free to explore the world without being burdened by thoughts of "what ifs."

It means that I am filled with soul joy, free to be me!

And , I thank that glorious day with every fiber of my being for making me go through that earth shattering revelation. What is it?

Forgiveness is not for the sake of the other - but because of the freedom it gives ME.

That Forgiveness, breaking the mental chains that I didn’t even know were holding me back has been life altering. One simple shift in thought has made me who I am today.

There, now you know my ugly duckling past. Want to know more about overcoming anger, resentment and hatred?

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Dr. Sandra Hamilton

Chief Confidence Builder