How to Get Past Insecurity & Doubt
Dec 04, 2020 6:01 pm
Hi
In my work with athletes and other high performers this week, I noticed a frustration with how long it can take to change a mindset. My first video gives you some encouragement to commit to the process of renewing your mind.
The second link is to a fun interview with Steve Project on The Sports Project Radio Show this past weekend where we talk about overcoming holiday blues during a pandemic (he recommends seeing a sport psychologist)!
How to Overcome Insecurity and Doubt
OBSTACLE:
You try to break that negative mindset that has haunted you for years, but the negative thoughts don’t leave. You can’t shake that insecurity or doubt. You’ve felt “not good enough” for a long time and the positive thinking doesn’t stick. You are frustrated because you can’t change your mindset.
HOW TO OVERCOME:
Embrace the long and slow process of the renewal of your mind. Our negative thought patterns have been developed over years (maybe with the reinforcement of a negative coach or pressure from a parent). They will not change overnight and you won’t believe the positive with just a few repetitions.
But there is a more helpful, positive and truthful story to tell yourself. And you have to go back to it and intentionally tell it to yourself, one thought at a time. Take each negative thought captive and challenge it with a more real and helpful perspective. With the truth you want to believe.
You won’t believe it at first, but if you commit yourself to the long term process of the renewal of your mind, you will see tremendous change.
Overcoming Holiday Blues During a Pandemic
On the Sports Project Radio Show, Steve and Dr. Eddie talk about developing an “attitude of gratitude.” But it isn’t replacing negative thinking with positive. Rather, it is holding the things that are still going well alongside the challenges. It also isn’t just a feeling. It’s a behavior that can be sought out and practiced. It is those behaviors that can change the heart.
Listen to the full interview HERE
The holidays and pandemic can bring up many negative feelings and result in feeling stuck. The surprising thing is this is often a normal and understandable response. It doesn’t mean that we should stay there. But it also doesn’t mean that we have to wait to feel good to live the life we want to live.
Steve strongly encourages seeing a psychologist for the coaching that can help you work with your emotions to live the life you want and achieve the results you are looking for. The sad, mad, and scared feelings are 75% of what we can feel (4 basic human emotions.) Steve and Dr. Eddie discuss the value of the negative emotions and how you can use them to be your best.
Resources For You
I'm here to help you overcome your obstacles to excellence:
🥇 Individual consulting at https://dreddieoconnor.com/telehealth-services/
🥈 Success Stories Membership at https://dreddieoconnor.com/membership/
🥉 "The Psychology of Performance: How to Be Your Best in Life" at https://www.thegreatcourses.com/dreddieoconnor
Enjoy the day!
Dr. Eddie
Dr. Eddie O’Connor
