Hey ,
A few days ago, I witnessed something that made me think deeply.
I didn’t see the actual incident.
I saw the aftermath.
An elderly man, probably in his late 50s or early 60s, had slapped a young lady in her mid-20s. She was a tenant. He was also a tenant in the same building.
What shook me wasn’t just the slap, as terrible as that is.
What shook me was that the man was being held down by people because he was shouting and almost fighting.
A grown man.
Losing control.
Completely.
And I remembered something I once read in a book. It said something very simple:
The moment you lose control of your emotions, you are behaving like a mad person.
That sentence stuck with me.
Because it’s true.
If someone is shouting, raging, losing control, they are not thinking clearly.
And the moment you respond with the same energy, you’ve joined the madness.
That’s when I realised something again.
Emotional intelligence is not soft.
It’s not weakness.
It’s not “trying to be holy.”
It is strength.
That man had options.
He could have walked away.
He could have reported the issue.
He could have spoken to the parents.
He could have handled it with maturity.
But instead, he chose violence.
Then lost control in public.
That is not power.
That is weakness.
Here’s what many people don’t understand:
Emotional intelligence isn’t just knowing your emotions.
It’s controlling them.
And even beyond that, it’s recognising when someone else has lost control of theirs.
That’s why wisdom sometimes looks like silence.
Walking away.
Not replying.
Not fighting back.
Not proving a point.
Because not every battle is worth your dignity.
People who know me know something about me:
They rarely see me angry.
Not because I’m never tempted to react.
But because I’ve taught myself to step away before I lose control.
And I’m not saying this to praise myself.
I’m saying it to show that it’s possible.
The hardest time to control your emotions is when you feel justified.
When society would say, “You’re right.”
When people would support your reaction.
That’s when wisdom has to speak louder than ego.
Just because you’re right doesn’t mean you should react.
Just because you’re hurt doesn’t mean you should explode.
Just because you’re angry doesn’t mean you should act.
Control is strength.
Restraint is power.
Silence can be wisdom.
Control yourself, even when you feel justified.
That’s real maturity.
Your Fave,
Darasimi
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