Hey ,
A few weeks ago, I woke up feeling good.
I finished my prayers, stepped into the morning with that quiet confidence that today would be different. Better. I even said it out loud: "Today is a good day."
Thirty minutes later, something happened that knocked that feeling right out of me.
I won't bore you with the details, but it was one of those moments, unplanned, unexpected, the kind that makes you want to sit down and just… stop. You know the feeling. When life reminds you that your plans are more like suggestions.
I had a choice right there.
I could sit in it. Let it ruin my morning, maybe my whole day. Replay it in my head until it became bigger than it actually was.
Or I could do something else.
I started thinking about solutions. Not because I'm some superhuman who never gets rattled, trust me, I do. But because sitting still in frustration has never helped me. So while the solution was still forming, I went to YouTube and pulled up some sermons from my pastor on strength. I needed to reset my mind before I could move forward.
Here's the thing: life doesn't wait for you to feel ready. Problems don't show up on your schedule. And not everything that happens will be good or fair or convenient.
But you can train yourself to respond differently.
I learned this from my dad.
Growing up, my dad had one rule when it came to problems: don't just bring me the problem. Bring me your thoughts. What have you considered? What could work? What do you need from me, input or support?
He didn't want complaints. He wanted thinking.
At first, I thought it was harsh. But over time, I realized what he was really teaching me: ownership. When something goes wrong, you don't have to have all the answers. But you do need to engage your mind. You need to show up to your own life, even when it's messy.
That mindset has saved me more times than I can count.
Because here's what happens when you shift from "this is terrible" to "okay, what now?". you stop being a passenger. You stop waiting for life to fix itself or for someone to rescue you. You take the wheel, even if you're not sure where you're going yet.
You don't need to have it all figured out. You just need to start thinking like someone who believes there's a way forward.
Maybe it's asking a better question.
Maybe it's reaching out to someone who's been there.
Maybe it's taking one small step while you figure out the rest.
Progress doesn't always look like a solution. Sometimes it just looks like refusing to spiral.
So the next time something unexpected knocks your good day sideways and it will, pause. Feel it. Then ask yourself: What now? What's one thing I can do? What's one way I can move forward, even if it's small?
You might not fix it right away. But you'll remind yourself that you're not stuck. You're just in motion.
And that's enough to keep going.
Rooting for you,
Darasimi
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