#468 – What makes you allow fear to get the best of you?

What would you do if you weren't afraid? That question has stopped me in my tracks many times. Today, I think a more interesting question can be, how would you live if you weren't afraid?

As we've been planning to move to a different state, I was confident that wherever we'd end up would be for the better.

But my husband's skeptical Ego bust the hot-air balloon lifting me with its targeted pins. What if I can't find a job?

True. Now our income is abundant because my well-paid AI projects keep coming and he's employed at a nearby bike shop. But what if the AI bubble finally implodes, as economists and journalists keep predicting? Or if in our future place there are no nearby bike shops interested in hiring an experienced mechanic?

Oh, darn, that's true, my Ego says, convinced that his Ego's just being realistic and practical––a clear case of collusion.

I noticed a shift as I went from yeah, let's move, to er, what if things get worse? Most notoriously, I noticed a sudden need to do things, to get moving. A sort of frenzy that made me check Zillow every 10 minutes, create a new profile on Indeed.com, ask Google the same thing over and over again, with different wording, hoping to get a different answer.

This morning, when I woke up exhausted, I saw it was my Ego pushing for certainty.

So I decided to "golden key"* the issue. Because why not?

Because one thing is to take the necessary steps to change a situation when it's time to change, and another thing is to obsess over achieving the perfect, fool-proof, risk-free change––which will never happen.

So I might as well relax and leave the solution to the universe.

What issues could you leave to someone else to solve so that you can fully live in the present as your true self?

Love,

Carolina

*The Golden Key by Emmet Fox.