#540 – What is keeping you from complete peace?

Are you addicted to fear because you believe it'll protect you from ruin?

I am, and I do, every time I believe the lies my Ego tells me:

• "No job = ruin."
• "Living off your savings = ruin."
• "Missing one gym day = ruin."
• "Overcooked spaghetti = ruin."

You may argue that some fears are justifiable, but that's just another way the Ego's lying.

No fear is justified, unless it comes from a physical source––the proverbial sabertooth tiger, etcetera. In such cases, fear appropriately triggers the physiological reactions that help your body survive.

In all other scenarios, fear takes your peace away and gives nothing in return.

Since my son was arrested, fear has felt like the rational state to be in. Because I witnessed my life turning upside down in a split second, I know it can happen again––so my fear is justified, says my Ego.

That's a fallacy. Life can change any second, yes. It can even end. But having fear won't make any difference, so why bother?

I know fear is just my Ego pouting and sulking because it can't manipulate reality to fit its narrow view of success. It tries to convince me that the natural course of life is for things to go south.

When I believe it, I start looking for signs of things "getting worse." Afraid, I brace myself for the worst-case scenario, which sends my peace packing.

There's a way out: gratitude.

If I thank everything I have, even the disasters and crappy stuff I face, I'm bypassing my Ego's advice. I notice the fear, but instead of bracing myself, I immediately thank it for nudging me to pivot and tune into a different frequency.

And because life will unfold anyway, I might as well choose to feel peace and enjoy the ride, regardless of what reality looks like.

What are you grateful for, even if your Ego tells you it'd be better to feel scared?

Love,

Carolina