#400 – How do you find your way in chaos?

If your life can (and probably will) be influenced by a butterfly flapping its wings somewhere, what would you gain by resisting life's unfolding?

Consider these pairs:

• "Go with the flow." "Stand your ground."
• "Trust the process." "Take control of your life."
• "Surrender to what is." "Fight for what you believe in."

The advice comes at us from all directions, each piece contradicting the last.

My client was torn: she'd joined a new firm and felt her voice was alone not buying into the "groupthink:" when everyone else agreed to do X, she believed Y was the best course of action. Now, she asked herself: should she go with the flow or stand up for her principles?

The Ego loves this game. It hurls all the contradictory advice it finds out there at you, in hopes that you'll freeze. It tells you there's only one right answer, and, unless you know it, you're doomed to fail.

It's how it keeps you small––which, in its distorted mind, equals "safe."

But if minute random events can reshape everything in unforeseeable ways, what makes you think any single piece of advice could possibly apply to every moment and every person?

Maybe the contradiction itself is the point.

When you surrender, you're not a doormat––you're allowing the infinite variables of life to move. When you maintain your principles, you're not rigid––you're following your inner compass in the storm.

Your Ego wants to stick to one: "Always surrender" or "Always stand firm."

Your True Self? It can surrender, with a strong back.

The chaos isn't in the world––it's in your need to find the right way through it.

What contradictory advice are you trying to reconcile instead of just living through?

Love,

Carolina