#451 – What are you telling yourself when you justify your actions?

Every time you explain your reasons to act, think, or be a certain way, you're telling yourself you're being tested––judged, assessed. That at any time you could be kicked out.

That puts you on shaky ground: unless you're accepted (phew), you're in big trouble.

If that's how you feel, you'll:

• Do whatever it takes to not piss people off
• Accommodate other people's wishes and demands
• Put everyone else's needs, wants, and interests before your own

So, when you want something that goes against the aforementioned points, you need, of course, to justify what your Ego identifies as "meanness."

"Please, I hope you understand. I'm not trying to be mean, it's that I really can't work for free because I'm 56 and my son this and now that, and I spent this much money on that, and my husband––blah blah blah."

"I'm so sorry but I can't reschedule our meeting to 8pm because I'm a morning person and if I don't go to bed early then my whole week gets messed up and then I get a headache and my cat––blah blah blah."

"I know you're waiting for my part to be completed to start working on your part but I'm not going to be able to do it until Friday night because I really need to get this other thing done first because it's been a year since––blah blah blah."

Your True Self would never ask you to justify yourself because it knows that putting your oxygen mask on first isn't selfish––it's your sacred duty.

What justifications will you drop so you can truly serve others?

Love,

Carolina