#447 – You triggered my Ego, now what?

Getting "triggered" happens to everyone: our fear-driven Egos want to get in charge whenever they feel threatened.

It's normal, but that doesn't mean it's inevitable. You're in charge, and here are the three steps to regain your power:

ONE. Your triggers are yours

It's easy to think that, if your behavior triggered me, you're responsible and it's you who has to change.

That's not how it works: you're you and behave as you do because of your own circumstances; only I, as the owner of my mind, am responsible for what I allow it to do.

If I allow external things (your behaviors or life circumstances) to influence my state of mind, that's on me.

Step: acknowledge that you're in charge of your own mind.

TWO. Your Ego's protection scheme is dated

When your Ego gets triggered and you follow its recommendations, it's like letting your five-year-old niece drive, expecting to make it home unscathed. Not gonna happen.

Anytime you follow your triggered Ego's recommendations (and leave a room, for example, because you felt someone was disrespecting you), you're affirming you need protection from a five-year-old because you don't trust your mature Self.

Step two: tell your Ego you don't need protection because you've got this!

THREE. Being OK with the world frees you

The boundary you need isn't between you and the world.

You need a bright line between you and your Ego because you are NOT your Ego. When it gets triggered, you don't have to follow suit.

By staying calm, you're sending your Ego a clear message: there's nothing to worry about and you're ok with whatever happens. You're ok with your Ego's discomfort because you're stronger than your Ego.

Step three: show your Ego that you'll protect it because you're ok with life.

What will change when you reframe your triggers?

Love,

Carolina