#83 – Goals and success: whose goals are you pursuing?

Your Ego's goals may feel like yours, but did you set them?

How many times do we find ourselves living in autopilot, wanting what others want, striving for what others strive for, only to wake up and realize those things mean nothing to us?

What made us set those goals for ourselves, if they're meaningless to our True Self? How can we know we're pursuing what really matters to us?

When your goals are driven by your Ego, they come with pressure. When they come from a legitimate desire of your True Self, they feel light. Important, but spacious.

Ego-driven goals feel heavy, strained, tight.

Your True Self's goals feel large and warm, like a cozy blanket when it's snowing outside.

Ego's goals feel urgent and fidgety, like an impatient friend tapping on his wrist watch, come on, come on, we're gonna be late!

Your True Self's goals flow like slow-moving river: you may not notice its current, but it has one, and it's strong.

Ego's goals are demanding – like my third-grade teacher, with her complicated hairdo and her tweed skirt, pacing up and down while we tried to catch up with her dictation, our tongues out and our palms sweaty.

Your True Self's goals are necessary – like breathing.

Ego's goals trap you.

Your True Self's goals have your back.

Whose goals are you pursuing that maybe you didn't choose?

Love,

Carolina