Folks,

For the beginner, it’s usually not a lack of effort or intention, but where they put their attention. In Mixed Martial Arts, it’s when to tense up, and when to relax - stay tense throughout, and you'll be drained in minutes.

It’s not that being relaxed is passive, or a sign of weakness, but rather an intentional act; a choice. A focus on what matters, when it matters. 

I’ve just come back from a weekend with the family to celebrate Dad’s 80th birthday. 

What struck me most was how magical it can be to place your focus entirely on one thing. Nowhere else to go, nothing else to do - a focus on being together. 

If you can do that for others, then you, too, can be king/queen for the day.

Have a great week,

Simon

P.S. Thank you for your messages this week - knowing some of you will be reading my book over the Christmas holidays is both a little surreal and gratifying. You can grab your copy here: https://simonharling.blog/book/