Issue #42: May is Masturbation Month!
May 16, 2024 4:59 pm
Sex Positive You: Issue 42
Welcome to Issue #42!
Hi loves,
You may have heard but I decided to try substack! Turns out, when I allow myself the space, I truly do like to write (or at least ramble) and that platform gives me the space to do it. If you'd like to keep up with me there, just subscribe (it's free!). It's a space that will be more expansive and personal than the blog page - and more frequent than my monthly newsletters.
I started on only a week ago and have so far posted about:
- Why I'm on substack
- New Moon Questions
- Asking for what you want (and why it's better than being frustrated at not getting what you want because you didn't name it)
- My take on Masturbation May as a sex educator who rarely engages in solo sex
- my response to being considered a token by some as a Jew that supports Palestinian liberation (I have written different messages to Jews, to non-Jews, to the world since Oct 8th but this is the first time I've had the courage to share one. I know I'm not ready for the likely vitriol coming my way but oh well. Here is goes.)
Masturbation May is a perfect time to give yourself permission to feel joy (and pleasure), even now
Remember last year when I talked about feeling joy amidst global tragedies? It's still relevant. Just because terrible things are happening doesn't mean you aren't allowed to find moments of pleasure, connection, and laughter. In fact, these things can be a source of strength.
I challenge you to use what's left of Masturbation May expansively. Solo sex is of course an option (check out some tips for solo play, here!) but so is dedicating time every day to some type of solo pleasure.
This might look like cozying up to read a chapter from a good book, sunbathing, taking a walk to feel the breeze on your skin, a bubble bath, or making a delicious meal. Whatever you choose, remind yourself that you are worthy of pleasure and joy and experiencing these things doesn't make you a bad person. If you want support in identifying pleasure in your body and how to listen to your body's messages, you can check out my self-paced online course, here.
Opportunity to Give
Simone Seol is currently matching donations up to $20K for families with people stuck in Gaza. You can find families to donate to here and let her know so she can match it!
A Personal Update
I have continued to be wildly roamy but have finally gotten to spend time in my apartment, with Alfredo, since we got back from our honeymoon (minus a short trip to Mexico City over the weekend). I am thrilled to have another couple of weeks before I head stateside for some family time, a conference, and then seeing my talented hubby perform as a soloist for an orchestra.
I continue to chug along on my dissertation.
On the Business Side of Things
I really do love coaching and now that things have calmed down a bit, I can take on 2-3 more clients.
I'm still on the hunt for freelance writing gigs and public speaking opportunities. If you have an organization you'd like to connect me with, let me know!
Lastly, I will be speaking at MidWest LoveFest on Saturday, August 17th in Indianapolis and Sex Down South in Atlanta in early September. I'll share a discount code for MidWest Lovefest soon. For Sex Down South, code YAEL gets you $65 off!
In Solidarity,
Yael
P.S. Remember, you don't have to, and can't, save the world on your own. However, each day is an opportunity to do something.
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Masturbation Affirmations
if you’re concerned about how much (or how little) you masturbate, how you masturbate, or your level of enjoyment of solo sex, here are some mantras you can adopt. There are some new ones from a follower here on the insta post, too!
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