Hello ,

I want to share something that took me years to understand — and even longer to say out loud:

My abuse story was never about the abuser.

That doesn’t mean I take the blame. Abuse is never the survivor’s fault.

But I’ve come to see that the reason I ended up in that relationship, and the reason I stayed, had everything to do with unhealed pain from my childhood — especially the deep abandonment I grew up with.

This week on the blog, I’m opening up about the truth that changed everything for me:

👉 Read: It Was Never About the Abuser

This post is for any woman who’s tired of focusing on what they did — and ready to start focusing on what she needs to heal.

If that’s you, I hope it brings you comfort, clarity, and a reminder:

Your story isn’t over. You’re just beginning.

In my previous newsletters, I shared ...

Beyond the Labels: Why Knowing Your Ex's Narcissism Type Won't Heal You

From a Furnace Room to the World: How I Reclaimed My Life and Made It My Own

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With you every step,

PS: Next week's newsletter will focus on Self-Trust and will include a link to download Rebuilding Self-Trust: A Guide for Women Healing After Toxic Relationships - can't wait to share it with you!