One of the worst signs of marital illiteracy in women is the belief that a man, as the head of the family, must pay all the bills in the family. While money is important, being the head of the family has little or nothing to do with the money in the hands of a man. It is about his ability and willingness to lead his family in the right direction.
Having money to throw around does not qualify an applicant to be employed as the CEO of any company, what qualifies him is the ability & willingness to manage the company's affairs and resources appropriately for the greater good of all involved. This is the same about choosing a husband, but for a lot of women, being broke and crude can't keep this in mind.
Romantic relationships, such as dating and marriage, require 90% of who you are and 10% of what you have to make it work. Mentally poor, wrongly educated people, who do not have a source of livelihood can't see that. They base their decision on the 10%, forgetting that 5% of the 10% must come from them.
Each person involved in a romantic relationship has a 50% stake in it. Out of that 50%, only 5% represents money and material possessions, the rest 45% is about who you are (Love, sexual attraction, sexual expertise, commitment, intelligence, leadership, empathy, selflessness, and willingness to make sacrifices) to make the relationship work.
Even if one of the parties involved in a romantic relationship finances it with billions of dollars, it represents only 10% of what is needed to make it work. You can't build a relationship on only 10% of the requirements. What about the 90% remaining? It is a romantic relationship, not a financial relationship.
Many unfortunate women, who admit to being ready for marriage and on the lookout for husbands, make the mistake of measuring prospective men by financial stability. They have their way of testing men's financial strength and if he does not meet their financial expectations, they conclude he is not ready and move on to another man. This keeps them single beyond their primes.
Money and material possessions are important in romantic relationships, but they must not be the foundation. Also, it must not come from just one person, no matter how much you have; it represents only 10% of what makes romantic relationships successful.
90% of the women between ages 30 and 45, who now struggle to attract partners for marriage, are in the positions they are in because they have lost out on the man they should have married because he was not financially stable. To them, a man is not ready for marriage and is unfit to lead a family unless he is financially stable. To these marital illiterates, financial stability makes a man ready for marriage.
If you ask them, they will tell you they are looking for husbands, but if you check their requirements, you will realize that they need financiers, not husbands. The worst part of it is that many of them do not even have anything that financiers can invest money in and be sure of making a profit from. This keeps them stranded and single for a longer period of time than necessary.
Poverty, both mental and physical, hinders women from being able to differentiate between a husband and a financier. A husband is not a financier and a financier is not necessarily a husband, but many women who are broke and crude (undeveloped) cannot understand this. They keep searching for financiers in the name of a husband.
Many of them just go with the flow to escape poverty but they often pay hefty prices for it. They get into marriage before realizing that a man's money consists of only 5% and at most, 10% of what it takes to make a relationship or marriage work.
Mentally rich and well-developed women do not choose romantic partners based on money. They are doing well for themselves and do not need a man's money to feel feminine. For poor and crude women, the truth is exactly the opposite.
When you are looking for a husband, don’t look for a man who will pay your bills. If you still want your bills paid by someone, stay with your parents, do all they ask of you, and never think about marriage.
Only adults get married, and what that means is that you must be able to take care of your basic needs of food, clothing, & shelter. If you cannot do these basic things for yourself, you need self-development and a job, not a romantic partner or a husband.
A husband is a man who can and is willing to manage a woman, her resources, and the children they will bring to life appropriately and lead them in the right direction. This means you must have resources that a husband can manage to be ready for marriage. If the reason you want to get married is to have a man pay your bills, then you are set out for a failed life.
A word, they say, is enough for the wise, but these are more than a word.
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