I DON'T HATE WOMEN, I ONLY REFUSE TO HATE MYSELF FOR THEM

A lot of people have the wrong impression that I hate wvmen, many of them try to sell the story that I'm hurt and take it out on women. I am not hurt; it is not that deep, but I am disappointed & trying to make things right, not just for me, but for as many as are concerned.

For the umpteenth time, I am saying that I do not hate women, but I expect mediocre women to still accuse me of hate even after reading this. They know I don't hate them; they just want to blame me for not hating myself for them.

Since I was 16, I said that I wanted to marry the best woman in the world and I knew that I had to develop myself into the best man in the world to have a chance with such a woman. I kept developing myself, hoping that one day, I will meet my wife. I did not just want any woman, I wanted the best! What constitutes the best woman in the world?

The best woman is a woman that understands how to love, that loves me for who I am and not what I have; a woman that is always willing to work and improve on her weaknesses instead of defending them and accusing a man of maltreating or hating her for demanding improvement from her.

With the above-stated description, it seems that I will never get married. In Nigeria where I live, men are glorified ATMs, they are considered useless when they don't dispense money & they accepted it as a reality and pass it down to their sons. For a man of my caliber and exposure, it is insulting to be limited to money. It is, in fact, disgusting. I don't welcome it!

One of my goals in life is to never cheat on my wife. That's a form of preparation for the best woman in the world. How can I have the best woman in the world and cheat on her? But cheating is less about her & more about me, so I developed myself to outgrow it, which is why I always said that men are not polygamous in nature. I have developed myself in many other ways too.

I said that every woman needs a man like me, that's not just a statement made out of thin air. It is because I know my worth & the qualities that I have developed. My desire to have the best woman has encouraged me to develop myself into the best man. I have everything a man needs to lead, not only a woman but men & the next generation.

I am courageous, honest, decisive, selfless, potent, passionate, wise; black, proud, beautiful, and ambitious yet, none of these qualities make any sense to many Nigerian women until I show them cash, a thing that I am not going to do unless I am dealing with a prostitute.

Many Nigerian women are raised by their parents to become prostitutes; they are not looking for who to love or husbands, they are looking for high-paying patrons, who will pay them well for their romantic services and probably take them & their families out of poverty.

My constant criticism of women is derived from the disappointment of not finding the best women in the world yet. I have reached an age when I want to get married, I am not pressured to do so, I know I need it. I am prepared but to always come across these traditional prost!tutes who feel a man must show the cash to be loved is frustrating. And that is not because I don't have money.

My life has taken me in a direction I do not ever imagine I will find myself in, which is patronizing sex workers. I hate to patronize sex workers but I have done it. I did not feel too bad about it because I kept telling myself that it was a passage in my life and it will soon be over. From a man that does not wish to have sex with any other woman except for his wife to patronizing prostitutes. What an irony of life!

However, that does not frustrate me as much as realizing that dating or getting married to any of these women that measure men by cash is the same as patronizing prostitutes. The only difference is that you must live with a customer for the rest of your life. That is even more frustrating.

Patronizing sex workers is my worst experience, but it is a blessing in disguise. It opened my eyes to the dangers ahead if I get married to a woman that needs me to show a stack of cash to be with me.

I don't want to live my entire life patronizing prostitutes. I consider it the worst of my wilderness experiences, so to continue with it in the name of marriage to be addressed as a responsible man is not a wise decision.

My observation & experience of how prostitutes treat men when they have no money or have inadequate money to pay for their sex service made me understand the danger ahead if I get married to a woman who judges men by cash at hand, hence, my clamp down on them.

If you believe that I hate women, it is because you did not understand where I was coming from, but now you do. I have written several self-help books for women, and last year, I hosted a women's conference, just to help women. I have done more for women than men.

I have more supported women's businesses than men's.

All the NGOs I have supported were headed by women.

I have rendered more free relationship advice to women than men. How can a man that hates women do all these?

I don't hate women, I love them but I don't want to hate myself to love them. It is not wise to do so. The latter is what makes a lot of women believe I hate them. They are used to men doing that, but I am different! Surely, the best woman in the world will not need me to hate myself for her to feel my love for her. Limiting myself to money is self-hatred!

A lot of women I have met need me to hate myself to love them. IT IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! If a woman is great, she will love me, mediocre women cannot love me. So, if you hate me after reading this, you know where you belong to.

I am Soul'e Rhymez