If you are asked what the least achieved success is, you might probably say money-making, but that will be wrong. The least achieved success is marital bliss. This is one of the most coveted successes, but a largely underrated one.
It is usually easier to build a successful career, make money, and become famous than to achieve marital success. Marital success is no doubt the least achieved success in the world. I will be fair to say that less than 4% of the world’s population has this success. If you make your findings, you may discover the percentage is lesser than that.
Why is it that marital bliss is hard to come by? The answer is straight to the point – narcissism.
Nearly all of us are raised to survive against all concerns and never to love – it is all about how much we can get, and not how much we can help others get.
A woman goes into a relationship thinking of what to get & not how to make the life of a man better; she does not even think of his interests at all. A lot of women are not married because they have not found men that will continue to give them and never ask for anything in return.
Marriage, however, is about two people serving each other’s interests as much as they serve theirs. In case you have an issue understanding the foregoing illustration, I mean that when you get married, you have to serve the interest of your partner as much as yours. If you cannot do this, then forget marriage.
The rate at which marriages are breaking up is proof of the growth of narcissism among people.
It is either a story of a man, who wants his wife to serve his interests but is unwilling to serve hers, or a woman that wants her husband to always serve her interests and that of her extended family only, forgetting that he has an extended family too.
This clash of interests causes a lot of issues that eventually lead to the end of the union. In some cases, it is a person giving and the other taking and never giving back. As far as marriage is concerned, giving has to be from both ends. No love will long endure while being one-sided.
All of us are narcissists by default & for that reason, we need to learn how to love if we must have marital bliss. It is not enough to know how to love, you must teach your prospective spouse how to love before you can be sure of success in marriage.
The failure of marriages is not accidental, they had to happen. Marriage must be built on no other thing than mutual love. When two narcissists get married, it is only a matter of time before the union ends. Narcissists cannot love!
If you want to get married and have marital bliss, start by getting rid of all forms of narcissism in you. Unless you do this, your life will never be peaceful even if you are the richest & the most famous person in the world. Treating narcissism is the first step to getting ready for marriage, but, unfortunately, people do not even care about it at all.
To help you understand what narcissism is & how to begin to rid yourself of its poisons, I have written a book (PDF) titled THE ENEMY OF THE LAST DAYS. In this book, you will learn a lot about why your relationships may have been failing. Moreover, you will understand why it is harder to achieve marital success than other forms of success.
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