Hey ,
So wanted to talk just a bit about feelings and where those feelings come from.
Many people want to believe that emotions are just these invisible items that just roam the world and from time to time we just find one and we store these emotions away to throw at those around us. This is why it can be seen as a bit absurd when someone says that someone or something made them mad.
Then again Many men will be out for a walk and when they get home they just ran into a swarm of pissed-off emotions. They can't explain it they are just mad all of a sudden.
Why do we have these emotions just running rampant around our homes?
The truth. These emotions aren't free-roaming. They can't even make us feel anything. That is because our emotions come from our own thoughts. So why did you get angry when you were out walking? All because you had a thought that made you angry. This is the key to two states you can be in.
The Emotional Childhood or Emotional Adulthood
So what is the difference? Childhood is when you think emotions happen to you. While Adulthood is when you take full responsibility for the control of your emotions and you do not expect anybody to take your feelings into account because If you get angry that is because of a thought you had. It isn't because your good buddy didn't return your call. It is because you think that he doesn't care or something to that effect. You are angry because of the thoughts you have about the circumstances you have.
How do you change from seeing the world in emotional childhood to emotional Adulthood?
1) You can work on your thoughts and it will take several years but you will get it and you will be stronger for it. Your wife and kids will have more respect for you because you will have the skills to accept responsibility for your actions and you will understand that your family members are just being human and their emotions are part of the package. You will be able to step back and let them have their emotions. However, you will struggle with those emotions and the thoughts that create them as you build that skill.
2) You can get coached and shortcut the process. Have someone who is able to see the obstacle from a different angle and help guide you to your ideal person in half the time. If you are interested in getting help and reaching your goals faster then Sign up for a mini-session. There is no commitment It will give you an example of what a coaching session is like. If you like it then we can do some more if you don't that is fine and we go on our merry way
Have questions? Please reply and let us talk.
Bryan Goodwin
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