Hey ,

”Rae you talk so much about building a relationship with your inner voice and observing your thoughts… but the moment I have to speak up I just lose my words. The fear and doubt take over... How do I overcome this?"

I received this question at "an evening with your inner child" -- the gathering we hosted yesterday.

If you've experienced this before, you are not alone. Every human being with a working nervous system would have experienced this before.

What happens when you do something scary and unfamiliar is that your nervous systems comes in to protect you. It goes into fight, flight or freeze mode. It causes you to "blank out" so you "won't say anything stupid".

Most of us tend to struggle our way through it, and end the presentation feeling shitty and blaming ourselves for blanking out.

The issue is, we never actually took the time to embrace ourselves, acknowledge our emotions, and build that trusting relationship with our inner voice. We bury the incident and try to forget that nasty feeling.

It's no surprise that the next time we step on a stage/ meeting/ networking event... our self-protecting "negative" thoughts come back again.

In order to set yourself up for SUCCESS every time you use your voice, you need to:

1️⃣ CONSISTENTLY build a trusting relationship with your voice

This means like a literal human relationship. When you build a friendship/ relationship, you take time to understand them. You're patient with them. You get curious about how they think and feel. You learn how to speak to them. You definitely don't shut them down when times get hard.

In the same vein, create space and time to connect with your unique voice.

2️⃣ Create a pre-show routine

Create a visual anchor and audio anchor that sets you in the right state of being before using your voice:

VISUAL ANCHOR: Photos, lovely client messages, anything that makes you feel empowered, convicted, confident and genuinely grateful and fulfilled to do what you do.

AUDIO ANCHOR: A curated playlist of music that gets you in the state of gratitude, confidence, joy, courage, etc.

The most charismatic and confident leaders/ speakers are the masters of state.

Over the weekend I hosted a huge speaker's conference with 180 speakers from over 16 countries. In the audience we had Certified Speaking Professionals and Hall of Fame speakers, and speakers who have spoken longer than I've lived (lol)

Not just that, my co-emcee is a veteran emcee who has been emceeing for over 2 decades #nopressure

Saying that I had zero nerves would be a big fat LIE. Professional speakers are one of the most critical audiences.

Thankfully, I killed it (I heard). Multiple people came up to me and said I held my ground and rocked the stage. They mentioned how my co-emcee and I had great rapport and great energy.

Your inner voice creates our outer reality.

The reason why I was able to hold my ground was due to the rock solid relationship I had with my inner voice. I worked hard over the years to develop this trust, such that I could take the stage with executive presence despite my nerves.

You can do the same - really! You've to work on your Inner AND Outer Voice.

As you may know, I work with leaders on strengthening their Inner Voice AND Outer Expressions. This creates a grounded and authentic stage presence that gets them into rooms and connected with amazing people.

If you'd like to set yourself up for success to be ready for when your speaking opportunity comes up, I'll highly recommend watching my 2 hour masterclass.

Here’s what’s in store for you:

1. My 2 hour Masterclass — I break down my OYV Methodology and give you powerful questions to dig deep and gain immense clarity about where you're at in your OYV Journey. Not only will you uncover the hidden. blocks stopping you from speaking with authentic confidence, you'll also gain clarity over what your unique voice is so you can stand out from the crowd.
2. Your 2025 Unique Voice Success Plan— 9 comprehensive pages of powerful exercises to help you create a clear success plan that maps out your specific priorities, action steps and habits for you to turn your voice into your greatest asset.

Here is your access to The Masterclass

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(I'll appreciate if you refrain from distributing this link. If you know someone who would love to watch this Masterclass, please send them here: https://raefung.com/the-masterclass) Thank you!

Here is your access to "Your 2025 Unique Voice Success Plan"

This will help you: 

• Get ultra clear of where you are in your Own Your Voice Journey,
• Identify the 1-2 pillars of the OYV Methodology that should be your key focus, 
• Create a clear success plan that maps out your specific priorities, action steps and habits for you to turn your voice into your greatest asset.

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I hope this gives you even more clarity and assurance as you take on stages/ rooms/ and conversations you'd like to own your voice on.

If you've any questions or challenges you'd like support with, drop me a dm on Instagram. You may also book a discovery call with me here.

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Always in your corner,

Rae xx