Hi ,

This one thing can cost you more than anything in your life…

Anger.

When we get angry, our nervous system becomes completely dysregulated.

Most of the time we’re actually seeking connection, but the anger pushes people away.

Cortisol spikes, emotions spiral, and we slip into guilt and shame.

And trust me… the cost is massive.

This past weekend, one of my clients texted me — a guy who hasn’t exactly been proactive with getting his life together. He suffers from a disease I call excusitis.

He’s always late, always avoiding responsibility, and even accuses the people closest to him of the same behaviours… not realizing that life is a mirror.

People around us pick up the habits we model.

If we want change, we must lead by example.

He kept giving his word and failing to follow through.

Expecting his kid to “listen” when he doesn’t follow through himself?

Unrealistic.

A lot of people in this phase of life start by blaming their parents, exes, or whoever hurt them…

But here’s the truth:

They’re not responsible for your healing.

They’re there to show you the areas you need to work on — self-awareness vs projection.

Instead of building new patterns, he kept reacting from old ones.

That isn’t responsibility. That’s autopilot.

And then it happened.

Over the phone, he sounded like he was slurring his words.

Blood pressure through the roof.

I honestly thought he had just had a stroke.

I told him:

“Get off the phone. Call an ambulance. Now.”

Later, he messaged me — he did have a stroke.

He’s lucky to be alive.

Even more grateful we handled his financial planning ahead of time, because if he had waited… he would’ve been uninsurable.

And his daughter would’ve been left with nothing.

Providing for your family isn’t just about life while you’re here.

It’s about protecting them for the moments you can’t predict.

Most people start thinking about this stuff when it’s too late.

They live in a fantasy thinking, “Nothing bad will happen to me.”

Guess what?

Everyone who ended up in a bad situation thought the exact same thing.

Fitness is mental first, physical second.

When you’re having a negative emotional reaction, it’s on you to take ownership and not say, “You made me feel this way.”

You own your feelings and those feelings are feedback about unresolved wounds.

Nobody else does.

Our emotions distort our map of the world.

The fastest way to connect with people is to understand their map and communicate accordingly.

My friend and client is still alive.

Thank God.

Hopefully, this becomes the wake-up call he needed, one that will allow him to shift from anger to gratitude, and from excuses to growth.

If you need help leveling up your mind, body, and finances, it’s never too late to change.

Email me back and I’ll help you build a game plan to move forward.

Peace out,

Coach Monty