Hey

Here's a story about little Timmy with a deep lesson at the end.

Little Timmy comes home from school with some Christmas cards that his mom ordered.

But his parents are no longer together, so the cards end up at his grandparents' home on his Father's side.

When Timmy leaves his Dad's, he forgets the cards his mom ordered at his grandparents.

His mother then contacts his father to say, "You're stealing things I paid for, and now I'm going to take you to court."

Timmy's father is deeply annoyed with this because co-parenting and quality relationships are built on effective communication. That means effectively turning "You" statements into "I" statements to resolve problems.

Saying YOU is accusatory just like WHY.

The truth is, using the word YOU is a projection of one's own beliefs on another due to an unresolved emotional attachment.

Which means the accuser is distorting the accused's reality or perspective of the world as their own.

Long story short, Timmy's mother is saying unconsciously, "I will steal from you the things you paid for, so I believe this time you did that to me."

These are the lessons from this situation.

Be very selective of who you marry. Legal marriage isn't about love; it's business, and that's why it's part of our government's system.

A stressful marriage or partnership will rob you of years of your life. Why would you want to be in business with someone who adds stress to your life? Your business will fail.

Pay attention to the words behind the words. They will tell you everything you need to know about a person's belief systems. This is why big organizations like to meet people at networking events before hiring.

Align yourself with those who do not play victim. Being a victim is a choice. Victims always find ways to project their own ugliness on someone else.

Accountability is the opposite of being a victim. Being able to say I used to do X until I learned Y and Z changed is a sign of personal growth.

The biggest financial blunder made is marrying the wrong person who cannot see that the world is a mirror of themselves. This can create further chaos when children are involved.

Choose wisely, hire slowly, and fire quickly.

Thanks for reading,

Coach Monty

P.S. - The quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our decisions, so book a call to work on your mindset. Nothing changes until your mindset does.