A mentor said I was a victim of my own success
Apr 11, 2026 10:24 pm
👀 A parent-friendly business note from Amy...
TLDR + quick reminder: Stop waiting! My former self was a brave soul, entering business spaces while pregnant, babywearing, pushing a stroller, sometimes with two kids in tow at a time. (scroll for more)
Now for story time: This week, it was Global Work From Home Day...
As I evolve the ways in which I show up and serve to accommodate our kids (around sports injuries, IEPs, new schools, the three of them outgrowing things and not wanting to hang out with us as much), I've also outgrown an old identity.
Photo from late March 2026:
Two kids in casts at home in the same week
My former self, the Amy of summers 2016 to 2023 was:
- Pitching her ideas
- Negotiating for sponsorships
- Speaking at government roundtables
- Meeting with clients and shipping the work
- Walking around stages mic'd up with a baby (and a toddler)
- Setting up play areas at startup events (family members helped)
And many more things!
Some done prior to parenthood and she just kept continuing on as she had before while adapting workflows, services and approaches to looking after kids.
Other milestones were new experiences and she just held on tight, trusted herself and rode the wave.
Such a baddie, as the kids these days say.
But I know that version of Amy is now gone.
- End of third person narrative -
Just me, myself and my intuition
Nobody told me to do it. I had deep self-trust, intuitive nudges and adapted on the fly.
Maybe it was because I was a creative professional.
Or made multiple overseas moves and was used to winging it.
Perhaps it's because I'm a manifesting generator and have a rare zodiac sign. Or was raised on a dairy farm where my parents and grandparents worked around me all of the time.
I'm certain those factors played a part.
But after doing this for years, sharing stories with others, speaking to many strangers, practicing my own creative and personal rituals, while regularly giving myself permission in advance of doing scary things, I believe there's more behind it all.
These skills can be learned, adapted and applied by anyone but it does help if you're thrown into an experience where you need to trust your instincts!
If you'd like to hear more about my personal thoughts on this, hit 'reply' and I'd be happy to share more.
Time for the plot twist
A traumatic life event (no further details needed) we didn't see coming (who does!?!?) happened to one of the kids and I in 2023 and we're still dealing with the follow on effects: Limited screen time, pacing myself, figuring out my nervous system, going to soooooo many appointments, relearning how to parent, work and live with different abilities.
A person who's known me for nearly eight years recently referred to it as "being a victim of my own success", when we spoke about what I used to do compared to what my capacity is now and where to go from here.
I could have quit many times. Given up. Decided it's too hard, not worth it, not meant to be.
Maybe I didn't because a part of me is still a baddie?
While I didn't understand the full picture at the time, I kept on keeping on, trying things, listening to my body and my intuition, focused on getting better, trying to get back to who I was before and no surprises here - advocating for myself, our family and our needs - but in new and different environments and industries!
And throughout it all, interesting things began bubbling up during the early months and past two years: My previous experiences, visibility efforts, old resources, speaking and trainings continued to grow my network.
Content gain momentum and I received invitations to people, places and events.
Regardless of my ability to participate, attend or achieve the results I previously would have been able to, I had something to work from.
Fast forward to now: Our kids are currently 4, 7 and 9 years old and I don't have any regrets about the spaces I brought them into!
The people we met with over the past decade, the things I spoke up about, advocated for, the experiences I shared in real time, however uncomfortable they were in those moments.
It's resulted in real change, new connections and relationships formed, complete strangers reaching out to me weekly over the internet, 90 podcast listener countries.
A diverse body of client work across industries and unique intellectual property which remains highly relevant (some would argue even more so) during these times.
Photo from May 2024, where I exhibited and sold my ceramics and art prints, our three kids, partner, Nana and friends visited me
It's taken 2.5 years between all of the health practitioners, rest time and challenges, I've been making more art by hand and started to grow flowers at home (thanks farm kid background!) I've applied my same principles to producing and selling art, as I did to providing my services as a freelancer.
I've been reconfiguring my resources, workflows, trainings and home office space (again) into a digital-first business with the ability to provide grassroots impact at a local community level, meeting many new parents in other countries and reconnecting with friends and mentors during the process.
I feel I'm starting to make peace with what is.
And I'm committed to reaching more parents and primary caregivers navigating the in between:
- Who you thought you were versus what you now want
- The work you used to find exciting becoming the thing that's burning you out
- The ways you've been perfecting your performance only to realize you will never take action if you keep waiting to feel ready
- How you never used to ask for permission but since parenthood, may have started doing exactly that
This next phase of Mixing Babies And Business™ is built for you. 🚼📊
For all the parents working on themselves + growing their career while raising a family, here are some things you can apply in this moment:
- Pitch now, don't wait until it's perfect
- Design (and redesign) your home office space for the season of parenting you're in
- Focus on shipping the work over upgrading the tech you have
- Work can be done around kids but be prepared for an audience and many interruptions!
- Prioritize getting out of the house and connecting with other humans IRL for your wellbeing
- When you need to connect remotely, don't hold back on what you can offer with what you have: Your voice, agency and skills matter
- You'll never know what the results could be if you don't take action
For those ready to show up unapologetically as a parent in business spaces and other typically 'professional' environments, you know where to find me.
Happy Working From Home (if that is currently you) and thank you for being here,
– Amy Lynch (+ Family)
Founder + Podcast Host
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