I spent some valuable time speaking with a mother recently and in that conversation, I deduced several unspoken things - fear, anger, regret and the almighty overwhelm.

She had a slice of blame for everyone from her husband, family, friends and even the children. She was so upset about her presents state and how nobody supported her enough with the children.

While she spoke I allowed myself to stay quiet and listened not just with my head but with my heart and I gave her all the time she needed while I listened and said nothing to interrupt her flow because I needed her to pour it all out.

When she was done I walked over to where she was sitting gave her a warm hug.

...and when she was calmer and felt better I said to her...

"What if all your children had was you?

" What if their only surviving parent is you, what would you do?

Everything in life is about stimulus and response, how are you reacting to the stimulus around you no matter what they are ( marriage, work, relationships, health issues, rejection etc)

What energy are you releasing as a result?

You have an assignment as the custodian of your child/ren to provide their needs and protect them from harm of every kind, even the one from you ( anger, frustration, neglect, and constant yelling and pouring out your frustration on them.)

Use every support you have, and if you don't have it from those who should offer it, then create your support system.

Cry, scream, be angry and allow yourself to feel what you feel, but after that, please pick up yourself and keep moving...your children will do amazingly well when your energy is right.

They are feeding off your energy, positive or negative.

Selah.

I celebrate you!

Have a great week ahead.

Marybeth Chima

The MentorMum.