On this email you'll fine details about
TWO TALKS of 2 hours each for men and women in December and January (recording available for pre-purchase)
AND AN IN PERSON RESIDENTIAL WORKSHOP FOR MEN in February - with a NEW 'RADICAL INCLUSION' pricing structure (see below)
2 hour Talks: THE BOY CODE AND THE WELL OF GRIEF Parts 1 & 2
with William Ayot and Simon Roe
PRE-PURCHASE THE RECORDINGS
These workshop will be recorded for those who are not able to attend the event live, and also for those who attend the event live and want to watch it again. The recording will be ready about 7-10 days after the original event, and we will email those who have purchased a copy, as soon as it is ready.
Click here to prepurchase the recording at a cost of £10 (Part 1)
Click here to prepurchase the recording at a cost of £10 (Part 2)
PART 1: When Tears Become Bullets
When and Where: Wednesday 6th December 2023 1.00pm – 3.00pm (GMT) – Online
Click here to prepurchase a recording of this talk for £10
About This Event:
The Boy Code is a term first coined by William Pollack PhD. It has also been called The Convict Code, The Lads’ Code, Dude Code and Macho Accord etc.. It involves an unwritten set of ‘rules’ which young men follow and abide by to be thought of as ‘proper’ men, to gain a sense of status and peer-respect. It starts early and can rule young lives. Big boys don’t cry.
The first rule of the Boy Code is that we don’t talk about the Boy Code. To do so would imply weakness, disloyalty and a lack of manliness. After years of work on the subject Dr Pollack made the devastating assertion – ‘When boys cannot cry bullets become their tears’.
Join poet William Ayot and body psychotherapist Simon Roe as they unpick the paradoxes and injunctions of Boy Code, it’s devastating consequences (depression, suicide, isolation and shame among them) and its enduring benefits in a world where men are often still expected to be providers and defenders.
PART 2: Learning To Shudder
When and Where: Wednesday 10th Jan 2024 1.00pm – 3.00pm (GMT) – Online
Click here to prepurchase a recording at a cost of £10
Click here to book for the live talk (suggested price £15-£20)
About This Event:
The Boy Code eats into the lives of boys and men, denying them choice and self-respect, instilling an inability to articulate feelings, and a pernicious sense of shame around ‘not measuring up’, that must be hidden at all costs.
Simon Roe and William Ayot reconvene to deepen their exploration of the Boy Code and its withering effects. How might we be colluding with the Boy Code? What can we do about it? How can we loosen its grip on those we love – and upon ourselves.
It’s complicated. We can’t simply eradicate it or expunge it from our lives. These living parts of us need challenging, certainly, but they also need to be welcomed and recognised – for the protection they may have given us – or may give us in the future.
What we can be sure of is that we need to access our grief. In the company of other men we need to grieve, to accept our vulnerability and witness that of others. In a world of hardening hearts and ‘right-hard-men’, we need to learn to shudder.
Join William and Simon as they deepen their understanding of themselves, and others, as men and seek to develop the tools necessary to face a daunting and uncertain future.
This is an experiential workshop for men and women. You do not have to have attended part 1.
Who is This Workshop Appropriate For?
This is an experiential workshop for men and women. In particular, therapists, coaches and facilitators, and those members of the general public interested in men’s issues.
Hosted by OnlineEvents
Simon Roe and William Ayot will be leading an in person, residential workshop for men “Exploring Male Rites of Passage: Men and the Long Road Home” on 25-29 Feb 2024 in Somerset
https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/workshop-for-men-feb-2024/
RADICAL INCLUSION POLICY FOR WORKSHOP COSTS
WE WANT MEN TO BE ABLE TO ATTEND THIS WORKSHOP, AND WE WILL WORK WITH YOU TO TRY AND FIND A WAY THAT YOU CAN COME, EVEN
IF MONEY IS TIGHT. Thus we have decided to operate a radical "inclusion policy" for the workshop part of the costs, and will accept any amount between £200 -£675. (The accommodation and food costs are additional and will be charged separately).
We can also offer you a payment plan if this helps. Please contact us to let us know what you can realistically afford - juliet @ therapyandcounselling.co.uk
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Workshop Facilitators
William Ayot is an award-winning poet, author, teacher and ritualist. Over three decades, he has organized, hosted, facilitated and led, men’s and mixed personal development events and rites of passage, working in rehab, correctional, personal development and organizational contexts. He uses poetry and the arts to teach leadership in boardrooms and business schools around the world, currently teaching on the Advanced Management Programme at INSEAD. William also designs and leads bespoke rituals for individuals and groups in his purpose-built ritual garden in Monmouthshire, Wales. Writing includes the play, Bengal Lancer, three collections of poetry, and a prose book on ritual. He is currently writing a book for and about men in a time of epochal change.
William leads personal tailor-made rituals for people in South Wales, UK. He is available for one-to-one coaching online.
Books for Sale by William Ayot | williamayot.com/shop/
- Re-enchanting the Forest: Meaningful Ritual in a Secular World (Short-listed for the People’s Book Prize 2016. Non fiction – about ritual.)
- The Inheritance by William Ayot (Poetry)
- Small Things that Matter by William Ayot (Poetry)
- E-mail from the Soul: New & Selected Leadership Poems (Winner of The People’s Book Prize Special Achievement Award 2013)
Simon Roe
Simon Roe originally trained as a body psychotherapist with Nick Totton & Em Edmondson and has nearly 30 years’ experience of working with individuals and groups. For the last 25 years’ he has worked almost exclusively with men & teenage boys in a variety of settings including 1-1 psychotherapy, domestic violence work and Rites of Passage events. He is a Respect approved trainer & supervisor for domestic violence practitioners and is the director of Two Wolves Consultancy and Training. Simon has recently completed a foundation course in Process Oriented Psychology – an approach which increasingly informs his practice. Simon is a fully accredited member of the Association of Facilitators.
Simon Roe regularly leads an online programme called Lives of Quiet Desperation: Therapeutic Work with Men, with Lee Stagles. Dates can be found at https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/
Simon and William both have pre-recorded on demand talks available on https://jandw.thinkific.com/
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