Fear looking like the "bad guy"?

Jan 16, 2024 4:20 pm

Dear Friend,


Ever feel like you're stuck in a loop, always conceding to unhealthy dynamics just to avoid being labeled the "bad guy"? If you are, you are not alone especially in your role as stepmom.


This was an area I was stuck. My heart was so huge and willing to help yet it seemed like I was the only one who noticed. My husband cared but he couldn't see my hurt from his viewpoint. Once I began to reframe, utilize the strategies, set boundaries in love - everything changed for me.


Prior to adopting a different mindset, I would have countless conversations in my head to get the words "just right" only to have it go south in a conversation with someone or never have the conversation at all. Truth is, I was trying to manage another's response which is NOT my responsibility and it's not YOURS either.


This REFRAME is just one that completely changed how I experience and respond to someone.


Note, you ARE responsible for your words but you are NOT responsible for how someone responds to you. If you've had words turned on you or if you've been made to feel like the bad guy...


"you are so critical..."

"I thought you were a Christian...."

"You say you want a peaceful family but then you...."


You see where I'm going and if you understand, well you understand.


Let's break free from that cycle together! 🚀 It's time to redefine what it means to stay true to your boundaries and advocate for your well-being. 💪 Curious about how to navigate this journey with love and open communication with your spouse, the kids, the ex-spouse and even extended family?


Let's explore the transformative power of reframing and create a healthier narrative for your family.


Walking this journey together in the context of a small group ensures the material and changes stick. You learn, grow, try, fail, try again in the safety of accountable community.


Next group starts week of January 23rd so grab your seat today before they are gone. Grab your seat at Reframing Relationships (just click) and use the code: stepmomsister in the coupon box for a great discount.


If you have an area where you'd like to better understand how reframing can help you, respond to this email. I read and respond to each one personally.


Can't wait to work with you in the group and teach you the art of reframing and have the honor of witnessing the transformation in your heart and home!


Blessings,


Heather Hetchler, MA

Mindset Coach for Stepmoms

www.ReframingRelationships.com

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