How to Actually Do This (Without Constant Conflict)
May 07, 2026 8:16 pm
Hi ,
By now, you probably don’t need more convincing. You see the issue clearly. You know what you want to do.
But there’s a different question that starts to surface at this point:
How do I carry this out: consistently, and without constant friction?
Because the challenge isn’t the decision itself… it’s everything that comes after:
- when your child says, “Everyone else has one”
- when other parents don’t understand your choice
- when you’re trying to explain your reasoning without creating distance
- when you start second‑guessing in the moment
Most parents don’t change their minds... they just don’t feel equipped for those moments.
That’s why I built Not Yet: The 14‑Day First Phone Blueprint.
It’s designed to give you a clear, grounded way to move from conviction to action... without having to improvise along the way.
Inside, I walk you step‑by‑step through:
How to talk to your child about this decision
So you’re not caught off guard or reacting in the moment.
How to handle pushback: from your child, your spouse, or other parents
Without escalating tension or backing down.
How to know when your child is actually ready
So you’re not guessing or relying on outside pressure.
How to set expectations ahead of time
So this doesn’t turn into a daily negotiation.
How to build a home environment that forms attention, patience, and real connection
Not just avoiding the problem, but cultivating something better.
If you’re ready to approach this deliberately, not reactively, you can join the founding cohort here:
A few things to know before you decide:
- This is the founding cohort, which means you get the lowest price this course will ever be offered
- You’ll help shape the course as it’s created
- You’ll have access to an exclusive Q&A only for founding members
- The course opens approximately 3–4 weeks after this window closes
- And if enrollment doesn’t reach the minimum, every purchase is fully refunded: no questions, no conditions
Enrollment closes in 48 hours (midnight EST on 5/9/26), or when all 50 founding member spots are filled.
Warmly,
Herman
PS: If you have any problems with the checkout process, please simply respond to this email and I will work to fix the situation!
PPS: Here's what you get:
14 daily video lessons: each one designed to fit the margins of a real life. One idea, one step, one day at a time.
Edited transcripts of every lesson: formatted for reading, with key takeaways called out. Watch, read, or both.
A Daily Family Prompt: one page per day, designed to be posted somewhere your family will see it. A key insight, a quote, one question to sit with together. This is the part of the course that moves off the screen and into your home.
A Phone Readiness Assessment: a structured tool for evaluating where your child actually stands across the areas that matter most: emotional maturity, responsibility, sleep habits, and social confidence. Not simply a score: a conversation starter.
A Family Phone Agreement: a simple, warm one-page document that puts your family's values into writing. Not a rulebook; a commitment you make together.
Three conversation scripts:
- How to talk to your child about the decision (with separate versions for ages 7–10 and 11–13)
- How to talk to a spouse who isn't fully on board
- How to talk to the other adults in your child's life: family, friends, anyone else who pushes back
Three bonus resources:
- The Film Discussion Guides: viewing guides for the two films I recommend during the program, designed to help you engage critically and, where age-appropriate, open a conversation with older children
- The Annotated Reading List: the books and resources I'd put in every parent's hands on this topic
- The Social Distress Diagnostic: a practical framework for understanding exactly what's driving your child's desire for a phone, and finding the least-detrimental alternative for families where one exists
Founding Member Cohort Only: A Q&A where you can ask about your specific situation.
A 60-day money-back guarantee: full refund, no questions, no conditions. I'm confident enough in this course to stand behind it completely.
Here's the offer:
As a founding member, you can enroll today for 37, the lowest price this course will ever be. When this cohort closes, it reopens at 47. Once the course is complete, the full price will be 97. The first group gets the lowest price, the ability to shape the course as it's built, and direct access to me in the Q&A.