Hi ,

You’ve stayed with me for nine days... thank you for thinking so carefully about this!

I want to say something before I close this part of the conversation.

What you're being asked to do is genuinely countercultural. It runs against what most families around you are doing. You'll face pressure from other parents, possibly from your spouse, almost certainly from your child.

There will be moments where it feels like you're the only one.

You're not.

There's a growing number of parents who've looked carefully at this question and reached exactly the conclusion you're reaching. Who've decided that their child's long-term development matters more than short-term social convenience. Who've chosen, quietly and deliberately, to say: not yet.

But here's what I've seen, consistently, among parents who care deeply about this: the ones who struggle aren't the ones who lack conviction. They're the ones who never built a plan.

They're navigating it in real time:

• in conversations they didn't prepare for
• in pressure they didn't anticipate
• in moments when they're tired and the resistance is immediate

And without a clear framework, even a strong decision becomes inconsistent over time. Not because the parent stopped caring: because caring isn't the same as knowing what to do next.

I built Not Yet: The 14-Day First Phone Blueprint for that parent.

It's a complete, step-by-step course: the research behind the decision, a framework for carrying it out, scripts for the hard conversations... with your child, your spouse, and the parents who won't understand... and a clear plan for making this stick over time.

If you've reached the point where you don't just want to believe this, but to actually live it out with clarity and confidence... I'd be glad to have you join us.

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Warmly,

Herman

PS: I’m opening this up to a small group of parents first, at less than half the regular price.

PPS: If you have any problems with the checkout process, please simply respond to this email and I will work to fix the situation!