#356 – When do you know it's time to quit?

Sometimes, the reasons to stay invested in something––a project, a relationship, an activity––don't outweigh the reasons to quit.

Yet we stay because:

• Sunk costs: "after all the work I've put in this"
• Status quo: "what else would I do?"
• Status: "if I get a divorce, I'll have to downsize––and what will others think?"

If that's why we're staying, it's because we're believing the Ghosts and the Ego more than our True Self.

So, how can you tell the difference?

Signs it's your Ego & Ghosts talking:

• Insistence: the voice in your head sounds annoyingly loud and repetitive––I have to, I have to, I have to!
• Mixed feelings: the prospect of staying makes you sad and the prospect of quitting makes you regret your decision
• FOMO: you want to quit but still harbor some hope that maybe things will change and get better, and what if you're gone by then?
• Fear of uncertainty: how will my life be when I quit? What if this happens or that happens?
• Overwhelm: the moment you think of quitting, all the hows you'll need to figure out once you leave rush to your mind
• Circular thinking: no matter how many hours you spend thinking about it, it seems like you're always at square one

Signs it's your True Self talking:

• No insistence: there's no voice in your head
• Permanent smile: just a smile
• Clarity: you have the vision of what you want, and you know it's not this
• No rumination: you don't spend time thinking about whether to stay or leave. You know. You trust yourself. You quit

You already know when it's time to quit. Trust yourself.

What will you quit to be a little closer to your freedom?

Love,

Carolina