The best way to respond to your mistakes

Jul 23, 2022 5:08 pm

I hope you are enjoying your weekend,

The fear of disappointing important others is so strong, I wanted to dedicate another week to it, offering you two more solutions below and a video that recaps all 4.

If I can help you with your performance anxiety, get in touch with me here.

So last week I shared my Notre Dame Stadion pictures, and told you I was doing a 10k with my son next. Well, his flight got cancelled and he missed it, but I did the 7 mile and 29 obstacle course on my own and made friends along the way! The endorphins just has everybody so happy during these things!

Enjoy these moments ... My son and I signed up for another race in West Virginia at the end August ... we will make this one happen!

Enjoy your Saturday,

Dr Eddie

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How to Best Respond to Mistakes

How should we respond to mistakes?

There's really only one answer. And it's not what we typically do.

We usually push it away and say, "oh, well I'll just try harder next time." Or we blame other people or we get nervous and really upset. And we try really hard 𝙣𝙤𝙩 to make that mistake again. And none of those things really work.

They don't advance us.

They don't teach us anything.

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲'𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼.

WATCH HERE

First thing is you need to 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘢𝘥𝘦 𝘢 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 . This may be the hardest part because our ego gets hurt. And we don't like making mistakes. We don't like disappointing other people. But the fact is that the mistake happen. We don't like not being perfect, but the reality is we aren't. And so accepting the fact that you did something wrong, being humble enough to admit that you did something wrong, really is step one.

And then from that point, now you're ready to 𝙡𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘪𝘹 𝘪𝘵. Really look at it and identify what you need to do differently. And if you don't know, talk to a coach and figure it out. Mistakes are learning opportunities. Don't miss the opportunity to learn and fix that mistake.

Then, step three, 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘵 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦. Again, not this idea of "I'll just try harder" - unless it's of course it's a mistake of effort. What do I specifically need to fix or do differently? Make that adjustment and then commit to giving your full effort and doing it better the next time.

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WIN: What's Important Now?

When we're anxious, our thoughts race a mile a minute, and we are so distracted from what we're doing that we tend to think about how we don't want to make the next mistake,

or we're stuck on the mistake in the past,

or "what if this happens,"

and we're all over the place quite unorganized.

That's what the anxious mind does. Rapid, thinking of catastrophic situations.

But you need to focus. So how do you do that?

𝗙𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗪𝗜𝗡, not on winning, but on 𝗪hat's 𝗜mportant 𝗡ow.