Two more solutions for your anxiety

Jul 14, 2022 8:28 pm

Hello,

The fear of disappointing important others is so strong, I wanted to dedicate another week to it, offering you two more solutions below and a video that recaps all 4.

If I can help you with your performance anxiety, get in touch with me here.

And then I share a couple pictures from my Notre Dame Stadion Spartan race. A 5K with 20 obstacles ... it was so much fun that I am doing a 10k with 25 obstacles in Oxford, MI on Saturday with my son! (Wish me luck!🤦‍♂️)

Enjoy the weekend,

Dr Eddie

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They will be OK

Not wanting to let our teammates down is a positive desire that causes a lot of anxiety.

We don’t want hurt the people we love, the people we are fighting for and with.

It can create a lot of pressure.

One way to ease that pressure is to ask: “If I do let them down, will they be ok?”

Photo by Christian Tenguan on Unsplash

The answer is almost always “yes.”

They won’t like it. Neither will you. But you all know mistakes and losing are a part of sport.

You have all made mistakes and done well after them, especially when you’ve learned from them.

Your teammates are strong and they have handled worse.

You won’t like letting them down 𝙖𝙣𝙙 they will be OK if you do.

For help overcoming this fear, join me for training inside Success Stories Membership.

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VIDEO: 4 Strategies

A big source of anxiety is not wanting to disappoint teammates.

But the fear of disappointing them leads to tension and mistakes - leading to exactly what you didn’t want to do.

Here are 4 tips to help you get past this fear of disappointing them:

WATCH HERE

1) How do you respond when they make a mistake? I’m going to guess you respond as a friend and both forgive and encourage them. Won’t they do the same for you?

2) The fact is they will be disappointed if you make a mistake. But they will be ok. We all know mistakes are a part of the game and we don’t like them. But we learn from them and we move on. Give your teammates more credit. You won’t devastate them if you make a mistake in good effort.

3) Use the fear as a motivating factor to do your very best. Rather than worry about disappointing them, see the challenge in front of you as an opportunity to make them proud!

4) And you can do that best by realizing these feelings have nothing to do with executing your tasks. They don’t help coach you in what you want to do, so they have no value while you are playing. They are simply a distraction. **Make the choice to refocus your attention on What’s Important Now. What’s your job in the moment? What action should you be taking to get the results both you and your teammates want?

If you’d like to overcome your performance anxiety, reply to this e-mail and let's work together.

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