Don't have championship expectations if you have this ...
May 21, 2022 11:06 am
Welcome to the weekend,
Is it safe to say we all want to win and be great?
Is it also safe to say we are disappointed when we lose or make a mistake?
In my first post below, I challenge you to see if your process matches the outcomes you are expecting.
Even been told to just "let it go?" Do you know how? In the second brief video I give you a peek into this month's Success Stories Membership Mindset video and tell you what Elsa from Frozen didn't.
Enjoy,
Dr Eddie
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Championship Expectations?
Are you disappointed with how the season turned out?
Are you mad about the loss yesterday?
Are you frustrated with inconsistency in the way you played?
Of course you are, but how do you respond to these feelings?
Many will distract themselves to feel better. Listen to music, focus on friends, adopt an “I’ll do better next time” attitude. And these work if your goal is to simply feel better.
But they won’t help you play better.
Try this instead:
- identify and own what you did wrong to make that mistake or contribute to that loss
- come up with a specific plan in practice to correct that mistake
The push back on this, often from younger athletes entering more challenging levels of play, is “but that’s a lot of work. I want have fun.”
And my response is simply this, “Don’t have championship expectations with a recreational habits.”
Ideally you will find the work of getting better fun. And it is OK, to play recreationally and just enjoy the experience. But it isn’t OK then to be mad or disappointed in yourself for losing and playing poorly.
We have to work for every result we get.
We are responsible for our results.
So have your outcome expectations match the work you put in.
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Let It Go!
One of the biggest recommendations for worry is to just “let it go.” We are told we should do it, but never told exactly how.
I believe, to truly let go, you DON’T concentrate on letting go.
You concentrate on what you DO want focus on instead. And the more you commit to that, the more effective you will be in naturally letting go of something else. Because you can only focus on one thing at at time.
Watch the video for an illustration and see how the more you focus on what you are trying to let go of, the more you are forced to actually hold onto it!
What do you want to replace it with in your mind? The key is to go all in on that and watch how everything else fades away … you “let go” of everything else.
I’m not saying this makes it easy. It isn’t, especially when the pain or hurt is strong, or the worry is big and overwhelming. But it is THE WAY to do it, and the Success Stories Membership is here to support you.
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Dr. Eddie O’Connor
