I need your help - was this bad?
Jan 28, 2021 6:31 pm
Hi
How we respond to adversity determines our success. In my first video - please tell me if this workout was a good or bad one.
Under that, I contrast two ways to respond to mistakes. Which do you think is best?
Enjoy,
Dr. Eddie
Was This Bad?
Obstacle:
You drag yourself through a workout. You were slow, felt weak. You tried, but you just didn’t have it today. So when you’ve finished, you tell yourself, “that sucked. I suck.” You feel terrible about your performance and bad about yourself.
How to Overcome:
It’s true that it wasn’t one of you best days from a results perspective, but that doesn’t mean it was “bad.” Focus on these two other truths:
1. Any time you show up, it is a good workout
2. When you give 100% of what you have, it is a good workout (even if you only have 50% of your best that day).
This isn’t about making everything positive. If you lacked effort or quit, feel appropriate guilt and strengthen your commitment to act like who you want to be. But don’t take your best effort and ruin it with criticism. It will unfairly kill your motivation for the next workout.
If you want to improve your motivation and confidence so you can stay in consistent pursuit of your goals, the I invite you to join Success Stories Membership. Get on the wait list now and be the first to know when doors open again in late February.
Perfectionism & Mistakes
Obstacle:
Perfectionism. You hate mistakes. So you do everything you can to avoid them. Problem is, the more you try to avoid making mistakes, the more they happen. This ruins your mood and motivation, which further hurts performance. Now you are in a downward spiral.
How to Overcome:
Ignore the advice that “it’s OK if you make a mistake.” We know that isn’t true! If they were people wouldn’t get so mad when we make them. We wouldn’t have consequences for them. Mistakes can be the reason you lose, they disappoint your teammates, parents and coaches, and mistakes are embarrassing.
AND … they are necessary for growth. You simply cannot learn without failing. You have to experience how NOT to do it before you figure out how to do it.
You don’t have to like it. But you do have to accept mistakes are part of the process of growth.
In Success Stories Membership, high-performers learn how to respond to mistakes in a way that improves their performance, not hurt it.
Go to www.dreddieoconnor.com/membership - doors opening soon!
Dr. Eddie O’Connor
