What did you expect? Not 5:1!
Feb 05, 2021 12:24 am
Hi
Two exciting resources for you today. The first will get your head into the right space. And the second is a fun interview I did on The Sports Project Radio Show where we cover expectations, perfectionism and uncertainty.
Enjoy,
Dr. Eddie
Do You Catch Yourself Being Good?
Obstacle:
You notice every mistake you make. You proudly say, “I am my harshest critic.” You think it drives you - and it does - but at what cost? You’re never satisfied. You're losing joy. And your performance is suffering.
How to Overcome:
Catch your self doing something right! Science has shown that we grow the best with a 5:1 ratio of positive reinforcement to constructive criticism. So don’t worry about decreasing that negative self-talk. Start by catching yourself doing something right, acknowledge it specifically, and let that accomplishment settle in.
The full 10 minute video contains more specific exercises to improve your confidence and consistency, and is available in Success Stories Membership here: www.dreddieoconnor.com/membership - Join us for “Monthly Mindset” deep dive lessons like this one.
Expectations, Perfectionism & Uncertainty About the Season
In this episode of The Sports Project, Steve and Dr. Eddie discuss …
How fans and athletes are alike in their expectations of the future:
- Be careful not to get too attached to either the negative or the positive for best performances
- How the pain of losing has several positive effects
Perfectionism:
- How intolerance of mistakes contribute to the development of perfectionism
- Use mistakes as an opportunity to grow
- Join Success Stories Membership as we tackle challenges like these (www.dreddieoconnor.com/membership)
Advice to players unsure if they will have a season:
- Keep your attention on what you control (training, recovery, mindset, nutrition and sleep)
- Increase motivation to train by focusing on your identity (this is what athletes do) rather than the deadlines
- Beat you opponent by being prepared – this is an opportunity to get ahead
- How to use the pandemic to develop your strength in adversity by using the “go ahead and look back” exercise
More resources on my media blog here.
Dr. Eddie O’Connor
