Do you struggle with perfectionism? Help is here.
Apr 17, 2021 2:25 am
Happy Friday
I have a special place in my heart for perfectionists. I am a recovering perfectionist myself. Perfectionists get results, but often at a cost.
Enjoy the two videos below to help you maximize your perfectionistic tendencies.
And if you'd like more personal attention, please reach out to me for individual consulting at https://dreddieoconnor.com/telehealth-services
Be Your Best,
Dr Eddie
"Being the Perfect Perfectionist"
Obstacle:
I love my perfectionists because they get great results. But there is a dark side with the pressure of having to do EVERYthing right. It leads to performance anxiety and burnout.
How to Overcome:
Be the "Perfect Perfectionist” by maintaining your high standards of excellence and change your relationship with mistakes. They are not failures. They are feedback. By knowing what not to do, you are closer to knowing what to do and focus us. Accept mistakes for what they are: a necessary and beneficial part of growth that will lead you to your goals. More than tolerating or being resigned to their inevitable occurrence, embrace them as valuable step in your progression.
And if you’d like some help getting over perfectionism, I’d love to support you with individual mental performance coaching HERE.
Check out “The Psychology of Performance: How to Be Your Best in Life” at www.thegreatcourses.com/dreddieoconnor for the 15th lesson, “Being the Perfect Perfectionist” and 23 other sport psychology topics that will enhance your performance!
Self-Compassion for Self-Improvement
Obstacle:
We are our own hardest critic. Some of us are even proud of this fact. “No one is harder on me than I am!” and wear it like a badge of courage. But we say things to ourselves that we would NEVER say to another. And if someone were to talk to us the way we talk to ourselves, it could start a fight. We hold our self-talk to a much lower standard, and it hurts our mood and performance.
How to Overcome:
Practice self-compassion. Be kinder to yourself and talk to yourself as you would a friend. Follow these three powerful steps:
- Be mindful of the uncomfortable feelings you are having and the urge to criticize yourself. Just watch it. Pause, and resist the urge to judge. Just notice the experience.
- Understand you are having a normal human experience. You are not alone in this. You might say, “this is what people feel after they make a mistake.” This is a shared experience.
- End with encouragement. Again, what would you tell a friend? Maybe you speak with optimism, “I’ll get it next time,”; confidence, “C’mon, I’ve done this before I can do it again!”; or a supportive kick-in-the-butt, “OK, I didn’t give my best on that last play. This is important to me. Settle in and give 100% this time.”
If you’d like some help talking to yourself in a more helpful way, I’d love to support you with individual mental performance coaching at https://dreddieoconnor.com/telehealth-services/
Check out “The Psychology of Performance: How to Be Your Best in Life” at www.thegreatcourses.com/dreddieoconnor for the 16th lesson, “Self-Compassion for Self-Improvement” and 23 other sport psychology topics that will enhance your performance!
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Dr. Eddie O’Connor
