, the first time I got my heart broken, it felt like someone had taken a 200-pound sledgehammer, whipped it around, and smashed my chest.

That was the moment I realized that the name heartbreak wasn't just figurative…

It was eerily literal too.

It felt real as fuck…

Like my heart had been squeezed of all its essence.

It was a painful but enlightening experience for me.

Because it made me decide to bury my head in my work (programming and school books at the time)...

Just to drown out the pain I felt.

Anyway after a while, I got over the pain…

And the best part of getting over it was:

I didn't get over the pain by ignoring it or drowning it by focusing on something else…

Instead what I did was:

I accepted it

I accepted that I had had a heartbreak…

And I know that sounds odd because I should have accepted it since…

But what I realized was: I thought I had but I hadn't.

I hadn't surrendered to the reality of the situation and that's why I kept trying to drown it out.

I simply hadn't accepted it.

Some part of me was fighting the fact that I hadn't been rejected by someone…

Or to put it more accurately, someone had been picked over me.

And because I was fighting it, I wasn't getting to see myself and life in general differently…

When I accepted that I had been rejected and someone was chosen over me…

I immediately started seeing that I wasn't a special snowflake like I thought…

I was just as normal as other people around me who had some time in their life been heartbroken and rejected…

And you know what that did?

It strengthened me and fueled my resolve to never make the mistake I made again…

And that led me to learn a lot about women and relationships in general

So when another tragic situation occurred when I lost my dad in 2022. (It still feels like last year)...

I was prepared because I had learned acceptance.

You see,

Losing a parent is not what I'd wish for anyone

In fact, 

It is one of the most unexpected incidents that would ever happen to anyone who experiences it.

Parents we see as formidable and unharmable presences watching us and acting as a cushion to fall on…

Now asleep with innocent oblivion about what is currently happening to us

But in as much as this was heart-wrenching…

I was able to accept it…

And after I did, I started seeing myself and life in general differently.

I took certain actions I wouldn't have taken if that hadn't happened…

And now I'm proud and thankful that I took those actions.

You see ,

What I've begun to realize is this:

Whenever something unexpected and most times tragic happens to you…

It's usually a chance for you to change your perspective on yourself and life in general.

And begin to take actions that transform your life for the better.

So if you're going through a tragic time right now…

This is for you.

Accept the pain…

Because my accepting it, it moves to hindsight…

And you begin to see things clearly.

You begin to see the opportunities that are open for you.

And it doesn't have to be heartbreak or losing a parent…

It could be:

• Losing your job
• Losing a client
• Losing money in an investment gone wrong
• Losing a spouse or a child 
• Losing an ad account
• Losing a business deal
• Losing assets in your business 

It might just be time for you to accept it…

So you can move on and try something different.

Because that's how you win…

And I want you to win…

That's my motivation for this letter to you today

Stay jiggy

Oxide

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