Dating Danes: learning the (missing?) language of love in Denmark

Jan 20, 2023 10:01 am


Apologies for the slight delay in getting this episode out - put it down to Christmas/ New Year schedules etc.

However, we think it's worth the wait!

The episode is all about dating Danish people.

For a culture that is normally so practical and matter-of-fact (see Separate Duvets), Danes seem to find it surprisingly difficult to talk about relationships.

Compared with other cultures, it’s rare in Denmark to ask someone out on a date in person (unless drunk) and there’s often missing vocabulary around defining what relationships are (there’s no direct translation for “dating”).

All this means that non-Danes (and to some extent, Danes) can really struggle with navigating the world of relationships in Denmark. 

In this episode we seek to explore why, and offer advice on what to do! This includes:

  • Advice on how to approach a Danish person you think looks hot
  • How to do a first date in Denmark
  • A warning on saying “I love you” to a Dane
  • Differences between heterosexual and homosexual relationships
  • The gender (in)equality in Danish relationships
  • Danes (perhaps) being more comfortable dating friends than strangers
  • Experiences dating in Denmark vs abroad

And several times investigating the sense that Danes (as a general rule) struggle to talk about romantic feelings, and how that is reflected in the Danish language.

In the studio

Sam and Josefine are joined in the studio by Line Kirsten Nikolajsen, a radio presenter at DR (the Danish national broadcaster) who used to present Giftekniv, a show all about helping young people in the world of dating.

We also had some additional help from student journalist Frida Rottländer who was doing research from the show and was in the studio. Sue-Angel Nyleti alos conducted additional research.

In the picture

Our episode image this week is of a couple on a date in Denmark.


The classic Danish date we discussed is a walk and a coffee, though setting on a bridge is also clearly an option.

A message from our sponors...

This episode is sponsored by Talent to Denmark's "State of Denmark" campaign. 

Being a small country, Denmark is actively looking to attract international talent to move to here.

If you're interested to learn more about jobs/ life in (one of) the happiest countries in the world (where you could perhaps also meet your future partner), head to

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Thanks Benoît for this one!

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