Hi

Question for you: Have you ever get caught up with those Unrealistc Super Mommy goals? I know I did at some point. I gotta admit it’s always a struggle.

But lemme tell you about these 3 toxic myths that you need to break away from, especially when you just had a baby, whether you’re a brand-new mom or you've done this rodeo before and you're now on baby #7.

As the popular saying goes, “you are your worst enemy and best asset” so it’s time to align that mindset. So let's get to it,

Myth #1: You will get your body back in X amount of time. You just need to kill yourself every day at the treadmill.

It’s time to give yourself that grace and embrace that mombod you got. Regardless of what it looks like remember you just literally grew a human that you either pushed out of your vajay or had somebody cut you open.

Healthy is always better than skinny. If you know you are taking care of yourself, you’re not getting sick, you’re getting your wine on I mean green juice, then seriously stop obsessing over your voluptuous, stretch marks-fested new and improve body of yours.

I had someone ask me 3 months after I had my handsome boy why my tummy is still big. I’m like B*$tch please, it’s been 30-something years since your last one and yours still worse than mine. *drop the mic

Myth # 2: Motherhood is enjoyable.

If you’re not enjoying being a mom then so be it. Be curious about it, explore it and accept that you feel that way. No need to add this to your list of #reasons why you have mom guilt.

That’s why you go see a shrink, pop a Prozac, get your wine and move on. Ok I know it’s not always that ideal. But it’s ok to not enjoy this role of being a mom. It’s not ok to neglect your mental health.

Myth # 3: Breastfeeding is best.

I breastfeed my baby and supplement with formula. Why? Because I’m not a milk factory and my body can’t make enough milk to match his needs. He’s growing like crazy.

Some moms can’t breastfeed for certain reasons. Maybe they don’t want to. Maybe it’s just hard. And that’s ok. Again, no need to put that in your #momguiltlist.

But just as there’s so many reasons why moms can’t do it, so is the judgment. To be honest, as long as your baby is fed, that’s all that matters. Ain't nobody gonna call child protective services on you just cuz your boobies aint hangin out feeding your baby 24/7.

Why is believing in these 3 myths problematic?

Believing in these 3 myths will cripple you from being the mom you wanna be. Your confidence gets affected, you don't seek guidance, and then…you know. #momguilt.

As someone who’s been through this 3 times plus all the stepkids I’m blessed with, I’ve been there. And, as someone who helps other moms like me, I’ve seen breakthrough after breakthrough and I know that it’s not difficult. Just people don’t have the right support when it comes to #momwellness and #momselfcare.

They get advice from people who have their own opinion of them, then they start thinking they’re not good enough.

Bottomline is if you wanna be a good mom then just stop comparing yourself for once. You are the standard. Take heart and don’t doubt yourself for a second.

P.S. Here's a confession: I go off and yell at my kids when they’re unmedicated, sugarized behinds are all over the place. But then again, I’m just a mom tryna get through the day. Who loves her kids with all her existence..that’s all!

XOXO,

Wella :-)