Hey there, ,

As the end of October is creeping up on us (and it's Halloween, see what I did there, creeping? :)), there are two things I think it helps to remember.

This came up because I've been hearing a LOT from people about the end of the year, and 2024, and Q4, and omg my goals, and what's next already, so it feels like this is something useful today...

First: October 31st is a date on the calendar. Period.

It's actually nothing more or less than that.

It's not a deadline, it's not an end point, it's not anything besides when we change to November.

The end of the month only means what we ALLOW it to.

Generally, we use the end of the month to catalogue all of the ways we failed, goals we didn't reach, and things we didn't accomplish... but this is not required.

It's just a date - and you can let it be just that.

If that feels weird, I get it (and it's okay) --- consider spending some time on 10/31 cataloguing all of the things that WORKED, you're PROUD of, that went WELL, or that you LEARNED in October.

Second: The only time line you control is yours.

As much as we like to think we can 'make' other people do things, we cannot.

If people aren't ready - if the time isn't right, they aren't sure yet, whatever - they aren't ready, and you being upset that THEIR time line isn't what YOU wanted it to be is not great for either of you.

If people aren't moving as fast as you'd like them to, consider - how are you sharing the ways in which you know now is more helpful than later? What can you tell them about the 'right' time? What do you know helps your people move from unsure to sure that you can share?

Start there - think about creating urgency but also NOT pressure (for either of you). And then move on.

Once again, the only time you control is yours - use yours to do your part, then move on.

Happy end of the month :)

Much love,

Sara

PS. The end of the month also brings the end of the window to join small group coaching for the year.

Starting group coaching NOW means you'll be walking into 2024 with a clear plan, with goals that feel good (and that you know how to reach), with the support you want and need but are afraid to invest in, and with 7 weeks of progress ALREADY created that you can use to jump into the new year.

What I know about the 'right' time is that by the time we feel ready as humans we've actually BEEN ready for a while - it just takes time for our brains to realize what we KNOW deep inside. There is no 'right' time... but waiting isn't helping either.

And? Please know that if you start and it turns out that group coaching isn't right for you? Or if we talk and it's really not the best fit? I'll be the first to tell you - you matter to me more than the money. This week I had two people come to me asking to join group coaching and it wasn't a good fit for either one. For the first person I offered 1:1 coaching because she wants to move FAST and 1:1 works better for that; for the other I referred her to a colleague who will actually be a far better fit because she wanted to focus on using a business model that isn't what I teach. It's never about the money, it's always about you.

If small group might be for you and you're ready to talk about it, hit reply. I'm ready to help you figure it out :)