Happy Wednesday,

This week, let's build on what we discussed last week. Cindy and Heather are back to discuss moving towards conflict to create safety, although this time they take it one step further and talk about how to do so in our schools, organizations, and other systems.

And let's hammer home the challenge to hopefully gain some further clarity and awareness around our self-talk.

🎙️ Podcast Episode: Moving Towards Conflict Part 2

What if we create more safety in our world by walking towards conflict instead of avoiding it or shutting it out? In Episode 56, Dr. B and Heather talk about the current state of affairs where there seems to be this great divide amongst people and their views and how we might navigate those difficult conflicts differently and undo the hate that seems to be bubbling up in all corners of life.

Click here to listen to the podcast

This Weeks Challenge: Self-Talk Observations and Feelings

Ok, 2 weeks ago I challenged you to notice and record one time you catch yourself using judgmental language or thoughts towards yourself. And then last week I challenged you to notice, and then change the judgmental thought into an observation.

As always, how'd you do? Take a moment to reflect? What were you wins around this in the past week? Celebrate them!

What did you learn? What could you do to optimize? Celebrate again for taking time to sit and think and learn!

In the example last week, I used needs, for myself and for other (my PT) to help shape it into an observation. Using needs and feelings as you reword the judgment into an observation can really help you earn some clarity and awareness around what is going on for you at that moment.

Let's try rewording another judgment I used in the examples from 2 weeks ago: "I should not be having the thoughts I'm having right now." This one can be tricky. So let's get more specific.

"Right now I am noticing myself having the thought that 'I am always late'. I am also noticing myself feeling sad around this thought and am mourning my need for kindness."

I could have stopped after the first sentence, but using the needs and feelings provides just a little more clarity and awareness for everything going on inside of me in that situation.

So that is the challenge this week. Reframe the judgment into an observation, adding needs and feelings in order to provide more clarity. And then just notice and record the difference in yourself before and after reframing the judgment.

See if you can do this once a day for 5 days this week. And as always let us know how it goes or any insights you have! And of course, celebrate each win!

In The Empathy Gym This Week

Upcoming Schedule

Thursday 12pm EST - Routine Workout with Jordan

Friday 10am EST - Action Requests Intensive with Jordan

Sunday 11am EST - Routine Workout with Logan

Monday 3pm EST - Routine Workout with Cindy

Tuesday 10am EST - Routine Workout with Saskiya

Have an awesome day,

Ryan