, may be you know someone somewhere who is so desperate or acts desperately in dating.

This is a trap we can get into especially if you are a woman in your 30's we get into this space where we get pressured by the people around us and social media.

As a single person you may have a fear of being alone and tend to fall for any small attention you get.

When you settle for desperation, you settle for the wrong men and the message is, you do not deserve better.

After 6 months down the line, you realize you made a big wrong move.

Don't let that be you.

Here are beneficial things you can do in this stage of your life;

Stop complaining about being single. Being single is not a disability,no part of you is missing at this point. You need to embrace your singlehood and avoid creating a gap for someone who is not there.

What you need to do is to let go of the pattern of ' I need someone to complete me' know that you are whole and enough in your singleness.

Focus on yourself. Focus on getting more self aware. You can take three to six months off dating and date yourself. This is a great time to get to know yourself deeply. This will make you know you deserve nothing short of the best, you will understand your needs and how to meet them with or without someone.

Work towards doing fun activities and new projects to boost your health, mental and emotional wellness.

Stop negative self talk. It's easy to go on the negative spiral saying you will never get someone worthy or thinking that you will die alone.

This is a time to remind yourself of your best qualities and stand in your worthiness. Treat yourself with respect and the people you will meet will treat you likewise.

Stand in your truth. May be in the past you have been used to pleasing men. Now as someone who respect herself, stand in your new found values and what you want in a partner. Do not shortchange yourself or lose focus and start settling for the first guy you meet.

Knowing what you want means you will be able to let go of those who do not meet those standards.

Don't have expectations instead be present in the conversation, ask questions, listen and observe how they respond.

People can lie to you ,so take your time to know this person for who they are. Let them show you who they are.

Don't be too available to people you just met. Get to know them without a rush. Have things going on for yourself as I shared earlier so it won't be that your only focus is to get someone.

I hope this tips helps you to avoid being desperate which may lead to poor decision making when it comes to your dating life.

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