Hi, , Do you often find yourself in situationships you can’t let go of?

You have all the signs pointing at an “unhealthy relationship” but you still try to convince yourself it will get better?

A few things to consider;

One, you may be lacking self-awareness. How well do you know yourself?

Sometimes we tolerate certain things, situations, people, emotions, etc because we haven’t gotten to know the level of our value.

Also self-awareness will help you know why you think that’s okay.

You probably never stopped to ask yourself; what do I really want? What do I need?

Because if you knew, you would know when you have that and when the people you are with do not help you meet that.

What are your personal values? Part of being self-aware is knowing what you stand for, A lot of times things don’t go wrong in relationships, things start wrong.

Did you go by your personal values or did you put that aside when you met your partner, your friend etc?

Another thing that keeps us stuck in a relationship that is not working or that is not good for us is thinking time will change them.

Maya Angelou famously said when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

So how can we succeed in our attempt to walk away?

Focus on what you are walking towards not what you are moving away from. Notice the huge difference? Focusing on where you are coming from will only derail your efforts.

This is looking back literally and your brain mostly obsesses on what you are losing rather than what you will gain as you move on.

Trust yourself and give yourself permission to move on. In a state where you have to make a huge decision, you may begin to doubt yourself.

This is where you summon self-trust, think of decisions you made before and succeeded and challenges you went through and were able to overcome.

Look at the reason you have been there. Instead of beating yourself up, and feeling self-pity, look at that experience as a necessary path in your journey of growth and evolution.

There is a season for everything, and it was your season to learn, about yourself, about others, and how to better relate with people in the future, in terms of setting boundaries etc. It was a time to learn about life in general.

Also it’s a good opportunity to know why you thought it’s okay, as I mentioned above about self-awareness. not in a judgmental way but in a way to help you work on those patterns. 

Pray about your journey and give it time. Healing takes time. Don’t expect things to turn around in days, weeks, or even months.

It’s good to know that working on ourselves is a continuous process and if we are consistent we get better and better at handling future situations.

Make a routine to pray about it to give you that push to keep walking forward.

Get Help. Underestimating ourselves is not good and so is overestimating how well we can handle something.

If you feel you need accountability, relationship coaching etc. Someone to help you have a strategy or two to apply when things get tough and to help you get back on track, by all means go for it.

PS: Over the recent months I have added more packages to my coaching programs, if you would love to get more details simply reply to this mail.

Talk soon.