Dear ,

Do you find yourself being too hard on yourself? Perhaps you made a mistake or failed at something, and you just couldn't forgive yourself for it? It's easy to fall into this trap of self-criticism and self-doubt.

When we are kind and compassionate toward ourselves, we are better equipped to extend those same qualities to others. We become more patient, more understanding, and more forgiving rather than being overly critical or judgmental

So let this email guide you on how you can integrate self forgiveness into your life.

Two things happen when you feel you have let yourself down or have committed a mistake.

One, you feel guilty. Guilt is good because it means you have core values, you have a conscious and you feel you have betrayed your values. It means next time you would not want to betray your values.

Two, you feel shame. Shame is the worst of feelings because it attaches you to what you did. It identifies you as the action.

If you lied about something, shame tells you, you are a liar, you are a bad person, you are stupid etc.

Shame is the part we are never able to forgive. Self forgiveness is separating yourself from your mistakes.

Self forgiveness is very important for our mental and emotional wellbeing and this is how you can go about it.

Make Amends. You cannot change the past, it's already behind you.

You cannot turn back time to change things however you can make amends. If you betrayed your friend,you can call and apologize.

There are things you can't make amends like if you feel you subjected yourself to torture for a long time or stayed in a bad situation for long.

You are human. Acknowledge that you are human and humans make mistakes. It's part of life and sometimes we learn through mistakes.

It's mostly at our lowest that we learn important mistakes. You are not your mistakes. Acknowledge that you have flaws and set realistic goals for yourself even as you pursue the impossible.

Learn from it. What should you learn moving forward from the situation? You are unable to forgive yourself because you have been in a toxic situation? You will not allow such moving forward.

Paper exercise for self forgiveness. Write down whatever the situation is, this helps you with releasing and processing the emotions you are feeling. Burn it and say aloud, I forgive you.

Work on your self esteem. Practice self care and self compassion. Shame messes up with your self esteem.

When you struggle with your self esteem, your self worth goes down.

So take care of yourself because when you have shame, you neglect yourself.

Self forgiveness is not a one day thing but a constant practice. If you are stuck in shame and this is negatively affecting your life book a coaching session or sign up for either the Self Awareness coaching program or the Personal Development program to work through this.

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Best Regards.