[111] How Many Lies Do You Tell Yourself A Day?

Apr 25, 2021 10:11 am

1 Idea, 1 Quote, 1 Book Recommendation


Over the past 3 years, I have been obsessed with this idea of committing to a sense of Brutal Honesty.

It's mainly because I have observed that when I am more honest to myself, whether I like it or not, I am more aligned to my path.

In addition, things become more efficient and people know what to expect from me, thereby respecting my time and energy more.

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One way we lie to ourselves is through something known as Ego Defence Mechanisms. An example of this is through Rationalisation, where we justify our poor behaviour for something, for example:

"...Well if he never acted that way I wouldn't have slapped him in the face" or

"...I only took out a loan because I needed to get married this year"

We constantly have to monitor where our decisions and judgements stem from in order to defeat the lies we tell ourselves...

...otherwise you will eventually live a miserable life, so deep in a rut, that it will feel impossible to get out of it


β€œLies sound like facts to those who've been conditioned to mis-recognize the truth.” ― DaShanne Stokes


Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception - Dr Cortney S Warren

If you want a reality check and a chance to look in the mirror over the next 2-3 hours, then reading this short but punchy book is just for you.

Dr Cortney Warren, is a psychologist who has spent dedicated time learning about why humans constantly lie to themselves. She explains this from many angles helping you understand why this occurs.

She says that many of us do not have the psychological strength to deal with the truth, and so we bury our heads in the world view that has been conditioned to us from family, friends, colleagues and society at large.

She also goes on to say that lying to ourselves may be the worst thing in the world, because we live our truth whether we like it or not... 🀯🀯🀯

Dr Cortney uses one of many types of lie we tell ourselves to explain her point. For example, Regression is taken from the psychoanalytic perspective and refers to us reverting to an earlier stage of our development and becoming immature e.g. refusing to talk to someone due to not getting your way...

This is a must-read! Click on the link below to check it out and start reading.

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