, Three weeks ago, we received a call to notify us that Victor was shot.

Victor was on I.T with us at Sheda House. He was a student of Industrial design from the Federal University of Technology, Akure. He created beautiful videos, pictures, and 3 animations. He was one of our Vibe King at Sheda house and he loved and served Jesus, even though he was with us for a few months, he was already an integral part of us.

I was already planning in my heart how we were going to storm the hospital, sing and dance him out of the hospital. Victor liked to have fun and I was sure that will make him heal faster.

We got to the hospital only for us to hear that he was no longer in the emergency ward. It was devastating and heartbreaking. Breaking the news to each member of Sheda house shattered my heart over and over again.

The next day he was buried and that was all. No goodbyes, no warnings, and no answers to our questions. He was with us till late evening of the previous day and the next day he was no longer with us.

I had so many unfinished conversations with Victor, conversations that we will never have. I assumed I was going to see him the next day. 

I still catch myself calling him in the office before realizing he is gone. The pain is deep, it has not left, we just keep managing, we talk about him every day at Sheda house because he was part of our lives.

In all of these experiences, I have learned to be intentional about my relationship with people. I don't know how long they will be here. I am deliberate about making the best of these relationships and be there for them.

For the last couple of weeks, I have had many of my friends call to tell me about their weddings. It is great to hear news about beautiful marriages and unions. A lot of them had questions to ask about weddings that I just answered without stress and the knowledge looked like a big deal to them. It was then I realized that writing everything about planning a wedding in a book is the first step on being intentional about the relationships in my life.

I will be creating a workbook for the planning of weddings especially here in Nigeria. I realize that an average couple planning a wedding is overwhelmed with it and needs help with it.

I am excited to give these hacks that I have learned from shooting weddings for over 8 years across the country and so I need you to help me with it also. 

If you have planned a wedding in the past, what would you have loved to know before the wedding?

What surprises did you get at the wedding?

If you are planning a wedding soon, what would you like to know about planning a wedding?

I look forward to reading from you.

Please pray for us in this season.

With Love,

Toluade,

Your friend from Sheda House