"Mummy can I join one more club this term please...?"

Our 6 year old daughter asked me at the beginning of the term, and just because I was curious I threw a question back at her without answering hers just yet.

Me : So what club would you like to add to the two we already agreed on?

Her : Culinary club, they make nice snacks and they take them home and munc.

Me: Hmm...( smiling to myself, na now you talk true, as a foodie, an extra snack on Friday makes plenty sense 😂😂) 

That's nice Mami, but you see we already agreed we would have just 2 clubs per term because; 

👉🏿 you need time to rest after school.and too many clubs won't allow this.

👉🏿 you need time for others things like music school, knitting and beading and swimming. 

👉🏿 And guess what! We can make some of those snacks at home! We get the recipes online or from anyone we know who knows how to make them.

See, we can make it happen!

Beside you already have the knitting and beading club and you love it there, or would you like to swap them?

Her : No way!!! 

Me: We can make the snacks at home then.

Her: Exactly! 

📌 Dear parents , letting children know the WHY behind your actions and decisions is one of the most respectful things you do to them.

 📌 It doesn't only send a message that you respect them , it also tells them that they are relevant ,and they matter to you. It places a value on them , and this is how they'll learn to place value on you and others.

📌 It can lead to options like , hey it's either culinary or knitting& beading. Choose!😁

That way the child ends up making the decisions and feels powerful doing so.

Saying "No" to your child isn't the issue, how empowering is that "No" , that's what matters.

Create family plans, policies, have agreements and be firm about them. Make them a standard and use these standards to teach your children boundaries, values, consistency, decision making and how to accept No ( and say NO without fear when they need to) all because they understand "WHY."

It's a beautiful week family.

Oya, go be the amazing parent you were built to be. 

I de hail o....🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

Marybeth Chima 

Educator & Parent Coach 

The MentorMum.

#mbinspires