Omo...parenting is not for "loafers" clearly. Brace up because children will try your boundaries.

You will get upset , try to maintain control of your emotions ( many people fail here ) , you will serve consequences and then that is where the real challenge begins, can you see those consequences through??

Many times we don't. The anger, frustration , threats are served, but the most important thing and perhaps only important one after being angry is abandoned.

No wonder , nothing ever changes. And this is because we don't want our children to "suffer."

Let me gist you small. So, yesterday our son woke up and realized he had to iron his shirt because he only washed it on Monday night after a series of reminders with no action.

He had a competition on Friday which meant he had to use one of the shirts prepared for this week, hence the need to wash it during the weekend.

But mba , what I heard the 2 times I reminded him about it was, " I got that mummy , thanks for the reminder. "

Oya na, day to wear shirt came and he had to start rushing 'upandan' because he only remembered to wash it on Monday night .

This sha affected his morning routine because he also woke up slightly late. So when his papa was ready for school, his lunch ( the main the main food ) wasn't ready yet because he started making that one late .

Snack bowl packed already he grabbed his lunch box, and quietly brought and handed me HIS ATM card, "please help me withdraw 1k for school lunch" ( Oshe! financial empowerment🙌🙌)

Me I gladly took it and did the needful.

Now you won't see the consequence here until you know my son. So let me fill you in...

👉 the boy loves his food, and he eats well so you see that school canteen portion is not for him at all.

👉 He loves to make and pack his lunch because it means he can have what be wants the way he wants it.

👉 You see that ATM card, na him own and he has somethings he's saving for , so depleting it for food he didn't plan for de pain am.

Now to me;

,📌 Could I have asked daddy for 10 extra minutes for him to pack finish up? Yep!

But why should other people be inconvenienced for his excesses?

📌 Could I have jumped in to save the day after shouting , threatening and forming 'no nonsense' mum? Yep!

But where then is the learning point for him?

So I focused on our little madam who needed some help and allowed him figure things out on his own.

Truth is I could have saved the entire morning with my mummy super power. But I don't have it 😁.

He isn't going to starve ( please don't ever starve a child as a consequence ) he's only going to loose a privilege because he didn't earn it and it is not my job to save him.

Las las, he would be fine and he was indeed.

And today , all went well and the young man was ready at 6.40a.m sharp!

P.S: Did you notice he handed me his own card to fix his own mess? How is your child interacting with money? 

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Have a fantastic day.

Marybeth Chima

Your Parenting Support Coach

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