In this email there are THREE things:

1) Increase your skills in working with what therapy cannot hurry - Grief: The Gateway to Transformation

2) A list of workshops coming up that have savings (i.e. an early booking discount) running out soon, and courses that are happening in the next few weeks, so you can book ahead.

and

3) Juliet's Musing - When Negativity Colours Everything: Understanding Negative Sentiment Override

Grief: The Gateway to Transformation

Sunday 22nd March 2026

What Therapy Cannot Hurry

Grief is not a problem to be solved, nor a stage-based journey we can master and move beyond. It is a living, shape-shifting presence that arrives again and again, often where we least expect it. As therapists, we can easily assume we know how to work with grief because we have theory, language, and personal experience. Yet grief humbles expertise. It asks for presence rather than technique, for listening that tolerates not knowing. When we truly attend to grief, we learn again that healing is not about fixing pain, but about staying human in its company, without rushing it away.

The workshop will focus on an exploration of grief through:

the lens of two of our professions traditional models of grieving and other familiar writers’ contributions to the field
Sue’s own definition and model of grieving
looking at a wide range of sources of grief, beyond bereavement, including losses through separation and divorce, child development difficulties, Adverse Childhood Experiences and adverse adult experiences and looking at the grief involved in coming to terms with our existence
exploring the idea of big ‘G’ Griefs and little ‘g’ griefs including complicated grief
differentiating between grief and depression, and between grief and trauma
relational debriefing and processing of the creative exercise
the articulation of Sue’s relational models for reflection, processing and transformation of grief

To book your place on our highly rated course addressing working with grief on Sunday 22nd March 2026, please click the link below

Grief: The Gateway to Transformation

and for alternative dates, and our full calendar of courses, click here

EARLY BOOKING DISCOUNTS RUNNING OUT SOON: Click blue links to go to website

Fundamentals of Working with Couples: Starts Friday 10th April 2026 Discount ends 10th February 2026
Creative Writing In The Therapeutic Encounter: Starts Tuesday 14th April 2026 Discount ends 14th February 2026
Attachment and Oneself: An Experential Group for Caregiving Professionals: Starts Friday 17th April 2026 Discount ends on 17th February 2026
Sex Arousal and Ageing: Starts Saturday 18th April 2026 Discount ends 18th February 2026
Anger, Rage & Relationship: Starts Saturday 25th April 2026 Discount ends 25th February 2026
Communication & Difference: Starts Monday 4th May 2026 Discount ends 4th March 2026
Introduction to Attachment Informed Therapy and its Clinical Application: Starts Friday 8th May 20206 Discount ends 8th March 2026
Advanced Certificate In Neurodiversity-Informed Practice: Starts Sunday 10th May 2026 Discount ends 10th March 2026
Working Somatically With Dreams- A Relational and Embodied Approach: Starts Friday 15th May 2026 Discount ends 15th March 2026
Other Loves 1 – Consensual Non-monogamy and Polyamory: Working with multi-partner relationships: Starts Thursday 21st May 2026 Discount ends March 21st 2026
Other Loves 2 – Exploring Relationship Styles across Cultures and Religions, including Arranged Marriages and Polygamy: Starts Friday 22nd May 2026 Discount ends 22nd March 2026
Working with Kink: Starts Thursday 4th June 2026 Discount ends 4th April 2026

COURSES IN NEXT FEW WEEKS

Therapeutic Journaling: Starts Wednesday 4th February 2026
PBSP Personal Development: Grandfather's Axe ONGOING GROUP 2026 Starts Thursday 5th February 2026
Suicide and Trauma: Starts Sunday 8th February 2026: Certificate WWCT
Lives of Quiet Desperation: Therapeutic Work with Men: Starts Thursday 12th February 2026
Meeting Partners Needs: Starts Saturday 14th February 2026: Certificate WWC
Meeting Partners Needs IN-PERSON, EALING WEST LONDON: Starts Saturday 21st February 2026: Certificate WWC
Working Alongside Trans, Non-binary & Questioning Clients: Starts Saturday 28th February 2026: Certificate DWCR
Introduction to Attachment Theory: Starts Sunday 1st March 2026: Certificate CIT
31st RESIDENTIAL THERAPY MARATHON Deep Dive Starts Sunday 1st March 2026
Introduction to Attachment Informed Therapy and its Clinical Application: Starts Sunday 1st March 2026
Couples in Conflict: Starts Friday 13th March 2026
Sex Arousal and Ageing: Starts Wednesday 18th March 2026
Clinical application of the Adult Attachment Interview (AAI) and Mentalisation: Starts Saturday 21st March 2026
Grief: The Gateway to Transformation: Starts Sunday 22nd March 2026
Dealing With Affairs: Starts Friday 27th March 2026
Fundamentals of Working with Couples: Starts Friday 10th April 2026
Creative Writing In The Therapeutic Encounter: Starts Tuesday 14th April 2026
Attachment and Oneself: An Experential Group for Caregiving Professionals: Starts Friday 17th April 2026
Sex Arousal and Ageing IN PERSON: Starts Saturday 18th April 2026

CERTIFICATES:

Those workshops that are part of a Certificate Training are noted above.

WWC is the Certificate in Working with Couples.

WWCT is the Certificate in Working With Complexities of Trauma.

DWCR is the Certificate in Diversity Within Contemporary Relationships.

CIT is the Certificate in Attachment

You can take just one module, or click the link to see which other modules make up the Certificate.

For the FULL LIST of all our workshops and ALTERNATIVE DATES go to www.therapyandcounselling.co.uk

JULIET'S MUSINGS

36. When Negativity Colours Everything: Understanding Negative Sentiment Override

This piece grows out of the same clinical work that informed the earlier reflections in this series. As the couple I was working with began to name nitpicking and defensiveness, another layer became visible. Beneath those behaviours was a more pervasive emotional filter shaping how one partner interpreted almost everything the other did. Once seen, it explained a great deal.

Relationship researcher John Gottman uses the term Negative Sentiment Override to describe this phenomenon. It refers to a state in which negative feelings about the relationship, or about one’s partner, become so dominant that they override the ability to register the positive. Kindness is dismissed, neutral behaviour is read as hostile, and mistakes are magnified. What is happening is not simply pessimism, but a shift in perception.

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