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1) Questions for therapist reflection re Erotic Transference
2) This is only the 2nd time we have run this workshop. Last time partiicpants scored it 9.5 out of 10.
Erotic Transference on 18 19 September with Bernd
2) Two in person modules of Working with Couples in London with Bernd in Feb and April 2026. Pay a £70 deposit now, and pay the rest later.
1) NAVIGATING EROTIC TRANSFERENCE: Questions for Therapist Reflection
- What might the client's erotic feelings be expressing beneath the surface — such as unmet needs for safety, validation, or connection?
- How do I respond internally (emotionally, somatically, ethically) when erotic material emerges in the room?
- What is being reenacted from the client’s relational history through this transference?
- How does my own countertransference — including any feelings of discomfort, flattery, or attraction — shape my response?
- Am I able to hold strong, compassionate boundaries while remaining open and non-shaming in the face of erotic transference?
- How would I speak about this with a supervisor or trusted colleague? Am I comfortable doing so?
- Have I done my own therapeutic work around erotic themes, power, shame, and desire?
2) IN PERSON WORKSHOPS WITH BERND IN EALING WEST LONDON
Meeting Their Partner's Needs: Sat 21st and Sun 22nd Feb 2026 in Ealing, West London. IN PERSON. Pay just a £70 deposit to join and pay the rest later. Click here for info and booking
Sex Arousal and Ageing: Sat 18th and Sun 19th April 2026 in Ealing West London. IN PERSON. Pay just a £70 deposit to join and pay the rest later. Click here for info and booking
3) EROTIC TRANSFERENCE IN THE THERAPY ROOM
18 19 September 2025 ONLINE WORKSHOP OVER 2 DAYS
Click here for more info about Erotic Transference Workshop
DATES: Thursday 18th & Friday 19th September 2025
TIMES: 1.45pm(BST) for 2.00pm(BST) start until 7.00pm(BST) each day. Please allow an extra 30 minutes at the end of each day.
LOCATION: Online
TRAINER: Bernd Leygraf scroll down to see more about the trainer
COST: £180 if booked by 18th August 2025
£200 Full Price
We now offer insurance against cancellation. This must be purchased within 48 hours of booking the workshop. Click here for more info
Feedback was 9.5 out of 10
"Real, authentic facilitator. Awesome knowledge. Invaluable learning. Great fun"
LP Psychotherapist
CONTENT OF THE COURSE:
Contrary to the myth that both clients and therapist cease to be sexual beings once they start working together, we know that sexual attraction, desire and erotic transference phenomena take place in the consulting room. This ranges from simply liking each other and enjoying each other’s company, to flirtations, infatuations, and in some cases, erotic transference phenomena – both positive and negative. This can continue all the way through to stalking and various forms of exaggerated control.
It is no wonder that, when these processes occur, inexperienced therapists run for the hills and clients might never make it to the next session.
This seminar takes the position that these phenomena are an integral part of the therapeutic process rather than an interruption to it (as Freud thought for a while). They are not only indicative of the deep bond that accompanies effective therapy, but the therapist needs to be able to utilise these for their work.
We shall work with both theoretical presentations as well as skills training in pairs, triads or small group work. These seminars work at some depth (level 7) and are a times emotionally demanding. Participants might find it useful to arrive rested and or take a day off afterwards, for self care and further reflection
ABOUT THE TRAINER: Bernd Leygraf
Consultant Psychotherapist co-founded a number of organisations (London Men’s Forum, UK Standing Conference on Sexual Abuse of Men, the Centre for Personal and Professional Development, the Whittington Hospital Psychotherapy Clinic, the Hungarian Gestalt Association, NAOS Institute). He co-authored with Judi Keshet-Orr the first MSc in Humanistic Psychotherapy and the first Masters programme in Psychosexual & Relationship Therapy in the UK. He also authored or co-authored, as well as led, several masters programmes in the UK, primarily at South Bank University, Middlesex University, Westminster and the University of Surrey. He was external examiner to various universities in the UK.
A former Chair of the Professional Standards and Accreditation Board at the European Association for Counselling, and Ethics Committee of COSRT, Bernd works currently with trainees, from over 40 countries. He is familiar with and interested in working with issues of cultural difference. His principal influences in sexological and couples work are David Schnarch, Joseph Zinker, Ellen Bader, Judith Hemming, Joan Lachkar, Judi Keshet-Orr and, as ever, his clients.
In 2023 Bernd was given the Liz McElligot Award for Outstanding Contribution to the Profession of Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy and for the support and guidance he has provided to the field.
Bernd is proud to have supported – alongside Judi – a significant number of sex and couples therapists in shaping their own professional identities and careers – both in the UK and further afield; some even have moved into offering specialist sex addiction clinics; others are now trainers in this field in their own right.
Bernd is delighted to be (founder and) Honorary Member of the Hungarian Gestalt Association. Clinically speaking Bernd focuses on working with celebrity clients, and on men in leadership, both nationally and globally.
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