how to believe in yourself?
Jun 27, 2023 3:16 pm
If you seek insight on creating a powerful and genuine confidence, here :
There are certain core aspects to creating a life you enjoy.
Powerful self-belief is one of these.
Self-belief requires a balance of action, iteration, trust and consistency.
You Truly can't fake confidence.
Many people don't know what True confidence is, it's founded upon knowing how you want to feel and making others feel that way.
Confidence is not arrogant, loud and rude.
What would you describe your confidence level as?
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Run, while you aim
If you know yourself well, you will have clarity on your internal strength.
The answer to the above question will be self-evident.
If not, that is okay because you can become stronger.
A wonderful place to begin is to become crystal clear on the opposite of confidence is...
You don't want to be indecisive, extra dependent on others, lacking a vision or purpose, constantly needing instant gratification and sticking around low energy environments.
All that I listed above will absolutely destroy your self-belief.
See, before we become strong usually we have to subtract that which is preventing us from doing so.
Everyone has strength inside, it's just that often we are our own worst enemy, unknowingly.
"You can't fix anything that you're not first aware could be improved", that quote is just pure Truth. It's our duty to pay attention to how we feel and to begin to unravel what is causing us to feel a certain way.
This is also known as your observation ability, when you train this ability all areas of your life improve because you start to connect the puzzle pieces that previously were invisible.
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What are you becoming?
Confidence is tightly linked to not seeking others approval.
Meaning, you observe more and say less.
When you step back and begin to adopt the principle of life-long learning, only then do the correct teachers appear.
It's surely not easy to keep your mouth shut in certain situations, although for the most part it's the correct decision.
Point is, when you listen closely in the observer mode, not judging but simply observing, you can learn so much about another beings state of mind.
And their state of mind will inform you of if this is a person you should even bother interacting with, many people are not worth an ounce of your energy because they have been programmed in a way where their mind is CLOSED.
Many will be worth your energy.
It's a fine line, making this differentiation between who we should pour into and who we should pass by.
Only you can make this decision for yourself, and it's all founded upon listening and allowing them to show their True character.
See, it's not what you have or even what you do in life but who you are and how you leave others feeling inside that matters the most.
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Deleting distraction
How do we combine action, trust, reflection and consistency?
It's no simple formula.
The concept that this is built upon is prioritizing balance.
If you only act you can dig yourself your own grave by doing foolish actions.
Like, some people act consistently but they are doing low-leverage actions in a low quality manner and that is not healthy and won't bring you success or fulfillment.
So to be straightforward, it comes down to a lifestyle structure and habits.
I enjoy starting my day with a reflection habit, breathwork and stretching.
This gives me time to start slow and my mind reflects automatically.
You don't have to try to reflect when you do certain actions, it just comes.
Because you are not distracting your mind with anything else.
Then I am sure to get a few solid hours of focused action, building toward my vision in the mid-morning.
Find out what time of day you are the most focused, for me I enjoy working in AM primarily.
Now, when does the trust and consistency come in?
The trust, personally, came from looking into religion initially, reading the bible and then I started learning about every religion and went into spiritual mode.
I don't follow any one religion, they all have beautiful insight.
More practically, it comes from feeling.
The secret to life is listening to your gut feel.
It doesn't lie, but understanding the difference between the gut feel and the ego can be hard to see.
And lastly, consistency is the balance of sustainability and intensity, the key is to begin and end your days in a healthy manner...
COUGH... breathwork and stretching.
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You can connect to a higher energy
What does powerful self-belief feel like?
I still to this day have moments of doubt and frustration, EMPHASIS on the word moments.
I used to have minutes and hours of self-doubt.
Now it's down to a few seconds before I catch myself, realizing wait, this is not how I want to think and feel.
That being said, the confidence is built from the balance of cognitive and physical advancement. Understanding the importance of prioritizing a healthy and strong mind-body connection.
This is when you are running on all cylinders.
A powerful inner belief is clear on it's values, vision and methods of getting there.
So if you don't have that clarity, this is step 1.
You need habits that lead you to become the person that you admire and you need a practical vehicle for getting there.
For example, all my habits allow me to pour out like I'm doing here and my vehicle is the internet. depending on what you want to become the details or content may be different for you.
Bottom line is, self-belief feels like you are on a mission and that you are Truly working on something meaningful.
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One thing leads to the next
How does confidence effect your entire life?
Well, we interact with humans constantly.
If you respect yourself then it makes all interactions much smoother and enjoyable.
To be simple, being un-confident makes you not want to see others that you are not close with already.
Being confident makes it so just about every human you come across is an opportunity.
Maybe they become your friend or maybe you learn something.
I used to think I was an introvert, no I just was insecure.
Once I created this powerful self-belief it's like every person I come across likes me.
Which is even weird to say, I know that's not exactly the case, but if they don't like me it's because they are insecure themselves and projecting their insecurities onto me.
I'm using the term like very loosely, If I can be the reason another human cracks a smile because I have the confidence to say a little joke or make fun of myself then I have done my job.
See, confidence is not this "oh look at me I am strong and have money I'm so great".
Those sorts of people are absolutely insecure deep within.
True confidence is not out here aiming to make others feel smaller than them.
Society has that one deeply confused.
Soon after I break 10K on twitter I'll release a low ticket self-educational video and written text program.
What topics would you want me to cover?
Reply and let me know.
Planning on creating a pathway to raise the quality of your sleep and how to invest the new energy you get from this.
Sleep leads to more energy and energy is how you get to where you desire.
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You are where you are meant to be
Remember, the quality of the questions you ask leads directly to the quality of your life experience. A sign of a wonderful friend is someone who ask tough questions.
You don't want to always rely on them though.
You need to ask tough questions yourself.
If you want to become better, answer these sincerely.
-What actions / habits leave me guilty and doubting myself?
-What are my core values and how can I change to align with them better?
If you do answer feel free to send me your responses, that would make me smile.
This is the sort of work that will move your needle forward, no one can answer these questions for you. Please, do it for YOU!
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So, simply by reading this you are on the path to becoming more powerful and confident.
Also, I wonder, what is the reason behind you doing what you are doing on a daily basis?
Make sure that reason is not solely a selfish, egotistical reason.
If you improve yourself not only for you but for something bigger, outside of you, it will help increase your wisdom.
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