the cost of settling?
Apr 28, 2023 3:31 pm
To remain as you are? Or to become who you want to be deep within?
I speak with many people who are feeling a bit of pain and desire to become better.
Yet, many choose to stay as they are, this is partially due to lacking a True sense of urgency.
How will you feel in 1 year if you don't make make improvements?
What about in 3 years?
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Being aware of the cost
We will not be here forever.
Society tends not to speak about death, as many are scared of this natural occurrence...
The reality is that we all will come to an end eventually, and that's not a bad thing, it's normal. Knowing this, many humans choose to live life's that they don't enjoy, but why?
They have not gotten CLEAR on the cost of their lifestyle and choices.
See, your life usually has to get worse before it gets better.
What that means is, stepping into the unknown, getting out of your comfort zone.
I've had to make multiple uncomfortable choices to get where I am now and I wouldn't go back on any of them.
Although I felt doubt and nervous in the moment, things do happen for a reason and your biggest opportunities are likely the hardest decisions to make.
What do you desire more, to like yourself or to remain comfortable and average?
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Desire
Personally I had an internal battle on the above decision.
Part of me wanted to stay comfortable, while the other part knew I couldn't.
I can recall having this temptation to play one of my favorite childhood video games, yet whenever I actually considered doing it I became disgusted with the idea...
This is the internal battle many of us feel.
If you're on the edge reply to this email with your primarily situation you’re aiming to beat.
We need to be real with ourselves.
Which pain do you prefer?
The infinite pain of regret...
Or the temporary pain of discipline, which eventually pays off 100 fold in your favor.
Do you desire to grow as quick as possible or to take the slower route of trial and error?
To grow fastest you grow with someone a bit ahead of you.
It's difficult at first, as you're doing something new and it's challenging when new.
I did not enjoy reading when I started a few years ago, now I deeply enjoy it.
Same goes with writing, it's important that we are open and willing to give something an honest shot.
Don't cut yourself short...
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Pain / doubt
I reached a point where I got sick of feeling sick.
Maybe you're almost at this point.
It's tough, this is what I'd consider my rock bottom personally.
Even though the journey has many challenging days, It's the hardest when you feel absolutely lost and alone.
The Truth is we are never lost and alone, yet I know life can feel heavy.
You don't have to do this by yourself, If I had not learned from many teachers I'd not be here writing right now.
Take a moment to think about your internal situation, even the tougher emotions, can you use them as fuel to inspire better actions?
Are you tired of feeling unnecessary pain?
I promise you life can get better and infact it will, as you do work on your body, mind and spirit how you see things will shift toward a brighter reality.
It's not easy and it's not quick, yet it's possible to change your life around in a few months.
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Balance
I don't want you to feel like there's an issue with who you are now.
That's not the frame of mind I'm looking at this from.
Rather, I know that we are okay right now and accept we all can improve in some aspect as well.
The bigger picture is coming from the idea that as we work on ourselves we create less suffering in the world.
For example, when you don't regulate your emotion and you end up loosing your cool.
You not only put yourself into a poor, low frequency, mood but you also do this for others too.
That's adding to the suffering on this planet.
That's not what we want to be doing.
We benefit greatly from having a sense of urgency to improve, to make these shifts in the right direction, while learning to accept we are where we are at this moment.
We don't have to resist or be upset with who we are, as long as we are aiming to become more than we currently are.
The balance is complicated, to put it simply, it's knowing you have more potential while enjoying your journey to that potential.
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Urgency
Part of me says, go at your own pace, take your time.
Another part of me knows it's a bit easier to do certain things at a certain stage of life.
That said, we all have differing life situations.
The biggest theme is, we will all depart from our bodies one day.
That is the main sense of urgency.
The sooner you begin doing your internal work the sooner you learn how to LIVE, rather than simply exist...
What's that mean?
Well, many humans are barely surviving.
They are stuck in the mindset which is either fixed, victimized or some other negative connotation. These humans are existing, not living.
They have the capacity deep within to start thriving and loving life if the work is done on their part. Want to begin thriving?
Shoot me a reply to this email with the main thing that's holding you back and I'll see if we can unravel it together.
Truth is, you are perfect as you are and you can still get better.
This is the same for all of life.
Accepting what is helps to relax the mind, see overthinking and stressing does not solve problems.
So no point in doing it.
We actually get the most done when we are relaxed and loose.
It's a tricky game this life is, I originally thought that I had to be serious to be productive, oh I was very wrong.
Enjoying the journey starts when you realize how to play throughout your daily life.
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Maybe test this out
There are things that we do that we know slow us down.
It's okay to have pleasure.
That said, there comes a point when internally you ask, what good is this thing doing for me?
If that answer is none...
We have a clear conclusion.
It's holding us back.
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What are the things you do you know you shouldn't?
(reply if you know where I got this question from)
What's your action plan for removing them?
(hint: take it one day at a time)
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Don't be too hard on yourself.
You heal your self talk through healthy action.
If we don't take healthy action then it's inevitable that our internal dialogue is harsh, this is just the character of the mind.
It knows about who you could become and doesn't want to see potential wasted.
By the way, if you sincerely journal about those questions it will help you much more than just reading them.
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Are you sincere about becoming better?
So again, how will you feel 1 year down the road if you stay as you are?
You can surely improve by studying you tube lectures and listening to podcast, I support this deeply.
That said, you can improve much faster by working with me 1:1... (reply)
I took the slower trial and error route, before beginning to invest in myself.
There's no higher ROI you can get than investing in your mind.
Your mind is your life.